Tear in the crease between the labia

I was waxing today and experienced a tear in the crease between the labia majora and minora. It didn’t hurt immediately but I noticed quite a bit of blood. The wax didn’t pull the skin off, it was just the direction and force that split the skin. Now it burns like hell, especially when I pee. Any advice?

If the bleeding has not stopped, you should go to the ER. If it has stopped, you should consider seeing a doctor. You may also wish to use an antibiotic cream to avoid infection, and calendula cream (which is available from most health stores) can also help. Also, make sure that you keep the area clean at all times.

Most tears in that area heal relatively quickly, so as long as you avoid infection and keep the area clean, you should see an improvement and be feeling better within the next few days.

Clare xo

Sore feeling in my labia minora

i have had this problem all of my life but i never really thought much of it and since taking health class at school i learnt that your labia minora is meant to change in size and shape but i honestly thought it was normal but now i dont cause occasionally i get a burning or rough sore feeling in my labia minora or in the area my clitoris is it also burns when i pee and i can only wear dresses and skirts cause it hurts when i wear tight fitting shorts ,skinny jeans or tights it even hurts when i wear underwear. I dont masterbate and i have only had one boyfriend but we never had sex its only until now its starting to really bother me i am pretty sure i have had this all my life i am now 17 and i get really insecure about it.

Thanks for getting in touch.

While changes in labia minora size are normal, the pain and discomfort that you are experiencing is not.

There are a number of conditions that can cause the symptoms that you describe, including urinary tract infections, a yeast infection (if you have white, clumpy discharge), or bacterial vaginosis.

Your best bet would be to make an appointment with a gynecologist for an examination. That way, you can get an accurate diagnosis and a prescription for the necessary treatment to address the problem. I recommend speaking to your parents about the problem so that they can help you to source the necessary medical attention

I also know that an intimate medical examination can be a stressful and uncomfortable experience. It is important to go through with it in order to address the root cause of the problem rather than letting it linger and perhaps get worse by being left unattended.

Good luck and please keep me updated on how things so.

Clare xo

I am so embarrassed of my vagina

I am so embarrassed of my vagina

I am so embarrassed of my vagina. Nothing makes me feel better about it, and I’m terrified to have sex for the first time because of it. All of my friends are having sex or doing things and more importantly I WANT to, but I’m terrified to let anyone touch me or even look at me down there. I don’t know what to do, my Labia minora are huge and my labia majora are a completely different colour to my skin? I am 18 btw

From where I’m sitting, your vulva is completely normal. There is a big spectrum of normal labia minora sizes, and yours are well within that spectrum. There are also many variations in vulva coloration, and it is not unusual for the labia to be darker than the surrounding skin.

Sex can be a daunting experience (especially the first time), as you are sharing your most intimate side with someone else. It is natural to be worried about being judged by your partner.

Most guys would be so thrilled that they are getting some, that they would not be focused on analyzing your vulva and passing judgment. The most important thing is to do it with someone who you feel comfortable with, and who is into you for the right reasons.

Clare xo

Tips on how to prevent queefing

I absolutely hate it when I queef! It sometimes happens during sex with my boyfriend and he always brings it up in public, just by making a fart noise. It has gotten to the point where after he does that, I wouldn’t talk to him for hours because it makes me feel bad. Do you have any tips on how to prevent queefing?

First of all, it sounds like your boyfriend is being very immature about the whole matter. Queefing (the sound of air which gets pushed into the vagina being released) is completely normal, and happens to many women.

Some tips for dealing with queefing during sex:

  • Try having him not thrust so fully. The cause is air being packed in your vagina as his head comes out (or most of the way out). If he stays more deeply submerged, then no air gets packed in.
  • Keep your knees together, and have his knees on the outside of yours.
  • Do it lying flat on your stomach with your legs together.
  • Remind him that it happens because of how perfectly you fit together… “Your big cock fits me so tightly that it makes an airtight seal.” Who could complain after that?

Clare xo

My labia gets pushed in during sex

my labia gets pushed in during sexmeaty labiaSometimes my labia gets pushed in during sex with my husband and that doesn’t feel too nice. If I wear small cute underwear then one can slip out the side of my underwear and it is very uncomfortable. I basically stick to bikini cotton underwear because of it.

You should try out different lubes for sex and find one that works for you. Some are more pricey, but it’s worth it to use a lube that gets rid of the discomfort and avoids your labia from getting pulled in by your husband’s penis when he enters you.

You could also try wearing boyshorts. There are some cute ones available, and this well avoid “slippage” and prevent pinching or tugging of your  labia.

Clare xo

Self conscious of my inner vaginal lips

self conscious of my inner vaginal lips

I recently turned 19 and I’m sexually active. I’m extremely self conscious of my inner vaginal lips. They are long and get caught on my partner’s penis during sex. I sometimes wish I could just cut them off. I’m saving up for surgery so that I can get them reduced.

Thank you for being brave enough to share your story and picture. Please don’t rush into getting surgery, as it’s a big step and an irreversible procedure. Have a look at this submission from a woman who got labiaplasty surgery and has lived to regret it. 

Your labia look to be within normal range, and your vulva is very pretty if I might be so bold as to say so. I hope that you can come to terms with it and get past your insecurities over time.

There are ways of reducing your discomfort during sexual intercourse without resorting to surgery. You should use a lot of lube to make entry smooth, and try to ensure that he enters you from an angle that avoids your labia getting caught during thrusting motions.

Clare xo

I love my labia

i love my labia

I’m 22 years old. After years of self-loathing I can finally say that thanks to this site I have accepted myself and can honestly say I love my labia! Wanted to share a picture for all those women going through a similar struggle.

Thank you so much for your lovely picture, and for your inspirational words of encouragement to the women out there who are going through what you went through 🙂

Clare xo

I feel like my vagina isn’t normal

I hate my labia and I feel like my vagina isn’t normal. I’ve been trying to come to terms with it lately but I just can’t seem to get past it. I definitely wanna become sexual active but I just feel like I can’t. I’m too afraid that my boyfriend will think it’s gross.

You are not alone. Thousands of women out there experience insecurities regarding their vulvas. I get contacted regularly by women who are convinced that their vulvas are abnormal.

Please spend some time looking through the submissions on this site. You will see how much variety and diversity is out there, and how normal and beautiful the variations are.

If your boyfriend truly cares about you, he will love your body as it is, and he won’t have a negative thought about your labia. If he has something negative to say, you will know that he’s not deserving of your time and intimacy.

Clare xo

I love my labia

i love my labia 2 3 4 5 6im from austria. i found your homepage with interest and want to submit my pictures to you. u have to know that i love my labia now. when i was a teen i didnt but now i love to see how it changes from a normal shape to the shape when im horny, see how its changing from smaller to larger. isnt it beautiful?

It’s absolutely beautiful! It’s amazing to see how much it changes in different states of arousal.

Thank you for submitting <3

Clare xo