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This blog is driven by submissions from users of their pictures, experiences and stories. Submissions are a huge help to others who may be going through the same struggles. To make a submission, e-mail clare@labiaproject.com

All submissions are treated with the strictest discretion and confidence, and your name will never be published on the site.

My labia get pulled in with sex

labia get pulled in with sex labia discomfortFrom the age of 14 years old I have been bothered by the way I looked and felt down there. As I got older my labia always got in the way and made sex difficult and made wearing certain things very uncomfortable. Since having 2 kids vaginally not sure if hormones or birth had anything to do with this, it seems like they got longer and my labia get pulled in with sex and to be honest I just don’t like the way it looks. I’ve always knew I was different down there. Nobody I’ve been intimate with has made me feel bad about it, in fact the few have loved it, it’s something I’m uncomfortable with and I’ve been all my teenage and adult life.

Thank you for sharing. The vulva can undergo physical changes throughout a woman’s lifetime, with the main changes usually taking place during puberty and pregnancy (due to hormonal changes), and during natural childbirth (due to physical trauma which may include cutting if an episiotomy is performed).

At a cosmetic level, your labia appear to be well within normal range, and for what it’s worth, from where I’m sitting, there is nothing unattractive about them.

I am sorry to hear about the discomfort that you experience due to intercourse. I suggest that you try adding some extra lubrication (KY-jelly or other water-based lubricants are safe and won’t disturb the PH levels in your vagina). The added lubrication can also add to the enjoyment of sex, so using a lubricant can have a double-benefit. You may also want to experiment with different positions and angles, as you may find that the discomfort and pulling on your labia is reduced or eliminated when a different position is used.

Clare xo

Labia come in many forms

labia come in many forms labia formsI truly love that you have this project. Our intimate parts are too often misunderstood as much by us as by men and that makes us self-conscious and full of doubt. Just like penises, labia come in many forms and all are unique, none are wrong. Dodson and others have written much on the positive benefits of taking time to explore ourselves, our labia, and our orgasm. Masturbation is such an effective tool to help us understand ourselves and come to terms with our parts and our individual orgasmic needs and pleasure. We all masturbate more these days so it may go without saying. Masturbation no longer has the mystery and stigma it used to have and we now know it to be healthy and even necessary. What many do not do is slow down, take more time enjoying it and exploring ourselves. It is not just quantity but quality that matters.

I’m not one who normally shares such intimate pictures and not the spring chicken I used to be but if it helps the cause I’m willing. I took time to shave and make it as pleasant as I can. My husband took many and these turned out my best we think. Thanks so much for what you are doing.

Thank you for sharing your thoughts and your lovely pictures!

Clare xo

I hate how my labia looks.

i’m 15 and absolutely hate how my labia looks. ever since i started masturbating is when i noticed my clit hood grew larger and the skin stretched and made t look absolutely horrible. my labia is a very dark mauve and i am so overly insecure about it. after reading that labiaplasticity is an option i am thoroughly considering it after reading the good reviews it has received. i’m scared that when i am ready for sex boys will not like the appearance of my vagina as it is far from tight and attractive. i know this site promotes self confidence and to love the way ur parts look but i feel like, someone telling me ‘it’s normal and everyone has it’ isn’t going to change my mind on how i view myself.

I’m proud of you for being brave enough to open up about your insecurities.

Undergoing labiaplasty surgery is a personal decision and it’s not my place to tell you not to do so – it’s your body and you are entitled to make your own decisions about it.

That being said, I encourage you to do thorough research so that you can make an informed decision and not an emotional one that you may regret someday. Many women have good labiaplasty experiences and are very happy with the results, but not all of the reviews out there are good, and there are women who regret undergoing the procedure or are disappointed with the results.

You’re also right that telling you that you’re normal is not a quick-fix which will magically make your insecurities disappear. Overcoming insecurities and body issues doesn’t happen overnight, and it can be a long and difficult process to reach a point of self-acceptance. The first step is recognizing the problem and deciding to overcome it. Then the hard work begins.

Clare xo

Genital warts on my perineum?

I really want to thank you for everything you do. The women who send you submissions are brave AND beautiful, and the sum of it all has lead to me feeling more comfortable with myself.

While I don’t have a submission of my own, I did find a submission very close to my own. It’s funny, because seeing the labia on someone else made me feel that it’s beautiful. Isn’t that the way it is though – always our own worst critics.

I also have a question for you, and I hope that you can help me with it. Two years ago, I went to the local sexual health clinic for my usual check up. The doctor was very newly out of medical school. I asked if she could do a visual examination to make sure that everything looked normal, and I explained to her that I feel very self conscious about my bits. She then did the examination and told me that I have genital warts on my perineum, near my vaginal opening, and then provided a freezing treatment. She told me to come back one week later for the next treatment.

There was a different, more experienced doctor the next week, and when I explained to her what I was there for, she said that she couldn’t find any reason for it. I told her that I had kept a steady eye on the area that the first doctor had treated from that first day onwards, and nothing had changed. That second doctor did not do any treatment on me, but asked me to come back in a few days so that her other very experienced colleague could examine me at the same time. They both agreed that although my texture was more “prominent” than some others may be, that it was indeed my natural texture.

That was two years ago. The texture is the same. I went for a checkup, and asked the nurse to do a visual examination, and I provided her with the aforementioned history that I was very paranoid about. She saw the area that I spoke of, asked a few questions about it, and then finished the examination saying that everything looked fine. The thing is, the bumps are still there.

I’m so confused, and worried. I have a committed partner, and I don’t want to put him in harms way, but that is two doctors and a nurse who have given me the okay, but now all that I can think about is that I have a wart causing HPV strain. In fact, I’m so paranoid that even after the nurse said it looked okay, I put cotton batting with apple cider vinegar on that area overnight and ended up burning myself. It’s been about a week and I’m only now starting to heal from that.

I know that labia can be different textures, but is that true for perineum? What could those bumps be? The girl in the submission said that she wasn’t sexually active, which gives me hope, but I’m so lost and worried. I do hope that you can give me some insight.

Ps. I don’t mind if you share my story, but please make it anonymous.

Thank you for sharing your story.

It’s difficult for me to express an informed view on what it could be without seeing what it looks like.

You mentioned HPV (which is commonly known as genital warts and can show up as a group of small bumps anywhere around the vaginal area). That is the most common STI – in fact, it is so common that most sexually active men and women get it at some point during their lifetimes. The body usually clears the infection on its own, so if the bumps were caused by HPV, you may no longer be infectious, and they may be a remnant of a previous infection.

Given your concerns about infecting your partner,  you may wish to undergo a HPV test, which will test for the virus in your system. It’s done as a swab best and can be done together with your routine pap test.

Please let me know your test results in you do undergo the test!

Clare xo

I have always looked different down there

I’m 16 and have always looked different down there. I’m completely flat with very low body fat and a lot of muscle tone. I don’t have any body fat in my mons pubis so I really don’t have a slit or outer labia. My clit hood and inner labia (which are very small) are visible all the time. When I was younger I was very self conscious about being seen naked. I used to hide in the corner in changing rooms. Now, thanks to the labia project and a greater sense of self awareness, I’m no longer self-conscious about being seen naked. I feel good about my body and am thankful that I’m healthy. I may look different, but everyone is different in their own way.

Thank you for sharing your lovely story <3

Clare xo

Beautiful diversity of labias

beautiful diversity of labiasFirst of all I wanna thank you for creating this amazing website and making it possible to see the beautiful diversity of labias.

I’m 19 and since I’ve been a pre teen i always worried about the look of my labia. I have asymmetrical lips and it was always an insecurity that I had.

In the past I’ve had friends who were not very educated in the diversity of labias and they made comments about larger labias being “ugly” and “slutty”, of course that made me even more insecure and I was afraid to sleep with any guy because they way I look down there.

Thanks to websites like yours, my confidence level is better, but not perfect yet. I hope that one day all women will see the beauty that labias have (no matter if you have smaller lips or larger ones) and that we will not be ashamed or insecure about them anymore.
Keep up the good work and thank you for creating this site.

Thank you for sharing <3

Clare xo

Wide labia

wide labiaAllways been uncomfortable with my wide labia. They are about 2 – 3cm wide, but more when they are stretched.

Hi there!

This study found that the average labia minora size among the 657 women who participated, was 4.3cm, and the largest participant’s labia was 10cm long. Yours are therefore well within normal range, and you have nothing to worry about.

Clare xo

Big clitoral hood caused by masturbation

Hi, my name is [name edited out – I don’t include any personal or identifying details on the site] and I am 12 years old and I am from Finland. (sorry for my bad English) I have been wondering about my big clitoral hood. Is my big clitoral hood caused by masturbation or what is a reason why it has been growing so big? I masturbate quite a lot, I use my fingers and sometimes a vibrator. I have been doing it about two years now, 3 – 4 days a week. Is that too much?

It’s a myth that masturbation can cause any physical changes to the vulva. The tissue down there is very elastic, and it would take a lot of trauma (such as natural childbirth) to cause any noticeable long-term changes. The changes you are experiencing are part of your natural development, and they are probably caused by your body releasing additional hormones during puberty.

With regard to the frequency of masturbation, it is healthy to masturbate often, and 3 to 4 days a week is perfectly fine. Many women masturbate every day, and that it also perfectly ok. Do what feels good to you, and do it as often as you like 🙂

Clare xo

I hate the size of my labia

I hate the size of my labiaI’m 18 and still a virgin because I hate the size of my labia. I’m honestly so scared to have sex incase the person I’m with see’s it and leaves because it’s not tidy. I’m really considering labiaplasty.

Thank you for being brave enough to submit and share your insecurities.

There are huge variations in labia size, and more than half of all women have outtie vaginas which would not be considered “tidy” based on the unrealistic standards that the media and mainstream pornography has created.

Based on your picture, yours are well within “normal” range, and you have nothing to worry about. When you meet the right guy for you and decide to have sex, you shouldn’t be worried about being judged because of how your labia look. Your first sexual experience (and, in fact, all sexual experiences) shouldn’t be clouded by anxiety and insecurities, and should be positive and enjoyable.

Please spend some time looking through the submissions on this site. You will see how much variety exists among different women, and the fact that no two vulvas are alike.

Clare xo

I hate the the way my labia look

i hate the way my labia lookI’m 19. I hate the the way my labia look. I think I look abnormal. I have good and bad body image days, but mostly bad. I am saving up for labiaplasty.

I am very proud of you for being brave enough to share your insecurities.

You may be comforted to know that basically every woman on the planet has good and bad body image days, and virtually all women experience body image issues to some extent.

If your labia are not causing you physical discomfort, my advice is that you try to overcome your insecurities through counseling, or speaking about them to somebody in your life who you trust and are comfortable with, before going making the huge decision of undergoing surgery. While it is ultimately your body and your choice to go through with labiaplasty, please do some soul-searching first, and approach surgery as a measure of last resort.

You may also want to read through this submission which was recently received from someone who underwent the procedure. She is happy with the outcome, but she only went through with it after careful reflection and proper research, and she has some great advice for other women who are also considering labiaplasty.

Clare xo