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This blog is driven by submissions from users of their pictures, experiences and stories. Submissions are a huge help to others who may be going through the same struggles. To make a submission, e-mail clare@labiaproject.com

All submissions are treated with the strictest discretion and confidence, and your name will never be published on the site.

Is it normal?

This feels like a safe place so I have a couple of questions 🙂 I have yellow dots on my inner labia. If they are fordyce spots, what are they and how can I get rid of them. Will they put people off from going down there. Also how do you know which way your hair grows. And how can I orgasm. Everyone at school says they have but I’ve never even thought about it. Finally is it normal to have hair grow around my bum hole . Oh and is it normal to have hair on my belly. I’m 15. Many thanks

Thank you for your questions 🙂

The dots are probably fordyce spots, which are basically enlarged oil glands / sebaceous glands which occur naturally in many people. They usually don’t require treatment (they are harmless), and it is unlikely that anyone would be put off by them as they are normal in males and females.

If they are unsightly and you have a severe case, it is possible to have them removed. Many dermatologists use micro-punch surgery to treat severe cases of fordyce spots. The treatment involves using a small device to punch the skin and remove unwanted tissue. The treatment is done using local anesthetic and the results are very quick. Laser treatments are also often used to treat severe cases of forcdyce spots, but there is a risk of scarring with laser treatment.

Fordyce spots can also fade naturally with age, so even in severe cases where the spots are unsightly, the issue often goes away on its own with time.

The easiest way to figure out the direction of the hair growth is by seeing the growth patterns after shaving or waxing for the first time. When the hair grows back, you will be able to clearly see the pattern in which it is growing.

Different women are able to orgasm through different types of stimulation. Some women can orgasm through penetration of the vagina (fingering or intercourse), while others can only orgasm through stimulation of the clitoris (which is the most sensitive part of the vulva). Some women also orgasm from pressure such as from the water flowing from a shower head / faucet directly onto the vulva. To figure out what works best for you, you will need to spend some time experimenting.

It is quite normal to have hair growth around the anus (bum hole) and to have a trail of hair between your belly button and your pubic area. Many women get this hair removed through waxing (there is a popular waxing treatment known as Brazilian waxing which removes all of the hair in these areas).

Clare xo

 

Part of my labia has no feeling in it

part of my labia has no feeling labia damageHi there! Im 22 and came across this project when I realized I had a somewhat “outtie” vagina and none of my friends did … so I went out in search of people who had vaginas like me. I had limited sex Ed growing up and never really gave my vagina a look until recently. I noticed that one side of my labia goes down a bit and is a little darker. The other side is more in … so really when my legs are together I can only see the one large labia bulge. Even though I was a little freaked out at first, I love my vagina and am not trying to make it one way or the other. However, I realized today that this section of my labia has no feeling in it… kinda like when you pinch the extra skin on your elbow. The other side of my labia does have feeling and I overall have a very sensitive vulva and am able to orgasm just fine. I’m just wondering if I should be concerned and get this checked out.. it doesn’t feel hard but could it be trauma to the labia or a cyst of some sort?

i guess i wear a lot of tighter clothing and grew up doing ballet which also required tight restrictive clothing so maybe that has something to do with it? i also had a bad experience with an ex bf hurting me by forcefully fingering me while drunk but im not sure if it was wear this protrusion is.

I only noticed it today. i never paid much attention to my labia minora before but have been doing a lot of research since realizing i had this part that poked out. after some research i learned its normal to have exposed labia, but i cant seem to find much on labia numbness. it feels like this  one side of my labia minora is much thicker than the other. and behind this thick part is more sensitive labia, similar to the other side.

Thank you for sharing your story and pictures.

The vulva has many nerve endings in it which make it sensitive and make sexual activity pleasurable. Most of the nerve endings are concentrated in the clitoris area making it especially sensitive to touch, pressure and temperature (which is why some women are only able to orgasm through clitoral stimulation). The labia minora have fewer touch and pressure receptors.

While not a lot of research has been done in this area, I came across a study done in 1975 of how many nerve endings women with larger labia minora have. The abstract of the study is published here. The study concluded that there is an “individually varying rate of occurrence of the nerve endings in the external genitals” and that the results were “random”. In simple terms, this means that there are variations between different women in the number of nerve endings found in the labia which occur randomly, and some womens’ physiology will be such that their labia has no feeling or reduced sensation and sensitivity in certain areas.

The labia minora is basically tissue which can occur in different sizes on different women, and which can be asymmetrical (one side bigger than the other). Based on what I have managed to find out, the fact that the protruding part of your labia has no feeling in it, is probably a result of the fact that you have fewer nerve endings in that part of your labia. It would not be caused by the fact that you wore tight clothing when you were younger or by the incident with your ex bf as neither of these factors would result in permanent numbness or loss of sensation.

Clare xo

You are you

Many women who visit the Labia Project express insecurities about being different from what they perceive to be “normal”, without realizing that no two vulvas are alike, and there is a wide range of diversity in labias (all of which are within “normal” range). I came across this quote by Dr Seuss which captures this perfectly:

Today you are you, that is truer than true. There is no one alive who is you-er than you. Shout aloud, I am glad to be what I am. Thank goodness I’m not a ham, or a clam, or a dusty old jar of gooseberry jam. I am what I am, what a great thing to be. If I say so myself, happy everyday to me!

Middle aged vagina

middle aged vaginaI’m 46 and only started looking at myself down here in the last year or so. Large, darker labia and hairy 🙂 Here’s a picture of my middle aged vagina. It helps to see I’m normal!

Thank you for your lovely submission!

Clare xo

The Labia Project gave me confidence

HELLO my name is [name edited out – poster’s names are never included with submissions]. I am 23 years old and i am from Kenya. i came across the labia project when i was 18 years and suffering from low self esteem. i had looked at myself and compared myself to other girls my age and i saw that my labia was big which I didn’t understand and i felt weird. But all that changed when i came across this blog and i knew i was not a freak. After posting on this blog i got great comments that boosted my esteem. let no one make fun of you you are all beautiful in your own way. Learn to love yourself and trust in God.

Self-esteem issues concerning vulva appearance affect women worldwide, and it’s great to hear that this resource has managed to reach you and make a difference in Africa! Thank you for sharing your story – hopefully it will help others who are suffering from self-esteem issues to overcome them too.

Clare xo

Protruding labia minora not linked to sex

I’ve had protruding labia minora since I was 12, way before I ever did anything sexual with anyone. It was like I just woke up one day and there they were!

I’m 22 now. Thankfully it’s never been a problem for any of my partners, in fact, many have complimented me on them.

Thank you for sharing your story 🙂

Clare xo

Yellow dots on my inner labia

I really want no one in the whole world to know who this is but please can you still post an answer? If you do thank you so much! I’m 15 and my labia are quite long. However this isn’t what I’m self conscious about. I have little white / yellow dots on my inner labia. They can’t be an STD as I haven’t done anything! I’m a little bit worried and would appreciate help. As well as this when I shave I get little red bumps. Is this normal? How can I get them to go? Many thanks

Thank you for your submission. All submissions are posted anonymously so you don’t need to worry about anyone knowing who you are.

The dots on your labia are likely to be fordyce spots. These are enlarged oil glands and around 70% of all adults have them on different parts of their bodies. They are completely normal and are harmless. They aren’t caused by any disease, and it’s likely that you’ve always had them, but that they become more noticeable / prominent as you got older. If they are really bothering you, they can be treated through laser treatments or topical ointments prescribed by your gynecologist. They may also fade naturally over time without treatment, so you may want to wait it out and see if that happens before you try any treatments.

The red bumps after shaving are probably caused by irritation of the skin. To reduce this, try shaving in the direction of the hair growth rather than against it, and you could also try using coconut oil on the area after shaving to soothe the area. Waxing as an alternative to shaving may also help and will give you smoothness for longer than shaving (although waxing can be quite painful, especially the first few times!).

Clare xo

I think women are being insecure for no reason

Sorry, but I think women are being insecure for no reason. After seeing these posts, I got upset at how many women feel their vulvas aren’t normal. Seeing a girl on here call herself a freak really hurt me. I have never heard a guy in person say anything about preferring a certain type of vulva. If any guy thinks your vulva is weird, he’s either uneducated, a virgin or inexperienced, and you don’t want to date an asshole that prefers a certain vulva-most guys should feel lucky to get to have sex with you. You’re special and don’t let some loser tell you otherwise; you deserve to be loved no matter what you look like. If you watch porn, you’ll see many women with bigger labia minoras are very sucessful also, girls with “innes” are successful as well. Please ladies, be confident in your vulvas!

Many of the insecurities that women experience with their vulvas are caused by deep-seated issues such as insensitive comments made by their male partners which caused subconscious trauma, or the pressures of modern society to confirm with a specific idea of beauty. A lack of education is also a big factor.

You are 100% correct that all women are unique and special. No two vulvas are alike, and the perception that there is only one body type / vulva type that is normal or attractive, is skewed by misinformation and ignorance.

Any guy who makes a woman feel anything less than a goddess when she shares her most intimate parts with him, does not deserve her.

Clare xo