hi, I’m 15 and have what i would say is abnormally large labia with a clitoral hood unlike any other that i’ve seen on here. I’ve decided not to have sex for a while anyway but have got a boyfriend and as we’re both virgins I’m terrified of what sort of reaction he’d have. I wouldn’t see it as an option anymore but i did research into labiaplasty for a while. Anyway, a while ago we had talked about how all women have different looking vulvas and left it at that until recently when he brought it back up and asked if I had a longer labia and you can bet I didn’t want to admit that from a build up of how embarassed I am of it. I’ve been looking at this blog for a while now and although it has helped me to come to terms with myself within reason, I’m nowhere near happy with what I do have downstairs. I’ve seen the whole “look in a mirror” thing but honestly I don’t think it can help me anymore 🙁
The reason your vulva looks unlike any that you’ve seen on the Labia Project is that no two vulvas are alike. Your uniqueness makes you special, and is a beautiful thing.
I’m glad that the Labia Project has helped you, to some extent, to come to terms with your labia, but it sounds like you still have some way to go in order to fully overcome your insecurities.
It sounds like you are assuming that your boyfriend’s preference is for smaller labia rather than larger labia. The reality is that for most guys, it doesn’t make a difference whether a partner’s labia is bigger or smaller, and some guys even prefer larger labia.
You should only take the step of engaging in sexual activity when you are ready to do so. Part of being ready is being comfortable with your own body, and being comfortable with your partner.