This satirical video highlights the misinformation among women which has resulted in the idea that women should aspire to have a “pretty vagina”.
The skewed the perception among women of what a normal, healthy vagina should looks like, has resulted in unfounded insecurities and an increase in unnecessary and sometimes harmful cosmetic procedures such as labiaplasty surgery.
Hi, I am 27 years old and happy with my body. I see that you don’t have much ethnic diversity in the submissions on the site so I decided to add my latina labia 🙂
Thank you for your lovely submission.
While I don’t have any control over who makes submissions and what ethnic group they come from, I encourage and welcome submissions from all ethnic groups.
This site is aimed at embracing and celebrating the diversity of all women. It is aimed at being a resource to promote body pride and to combat body shaming in all sectors of the community. Submissions from a diverse range of women are needed in order to do that.
I am 19 years old and a virgin. I’ve always suspected that something is wrong with the way my vagina looks. Does my vagina look normal?
I get contacted often by women asking the same question. The answer is usually a resounding “YES”. In your case, it is a definite “YES”!
Since women rarely see other womens’ vulvas (the visible area of the female genitalia) up close, there are many misconceptions out there about what a vulva should look like, and what is “normal”.
The reality is that there is a wide range of variations in vulva anatomy which are totally normal, including variations in colour (from light pink to shades of purple, brown and gray), size of the labia majora / outer lips and labia minora / inner lips (from labia minora that are tucked into the labia majora and not visible, to more prominent labia minora that protrode out of the labia majora), and texture (from ruffled to smooth labia minora and everything in-between).
I have recently noticed that my labia minora is really enlarged and I am going on holiday in a month and I am really self concious of the way it looks in a bikini. There is a very large bulge which is definitely noticeable. I don’t want this insecurity to stop me from having fun as I used to be very confident with my body. I am unsure of what to do as I am only 18 and don’t want to get surgery.
First off, you are perfectly normal. Plenty of other girls are in the same situation. Here are some tips which might help to make you less self conscious about wearing a bikini with enlarged labia:
Put a pad inside your bikini bottom to add a little more thickness to your suit
Wear boyshort bottoms
Get a liner that smooths out everything down there – they are available from this company (and quite a few others online – just do a Google search)
Wear a retro swimsuit which has a little skirt
Wear a colorful / patterned bikini which makes the contours less obvious
The most important thing is to have fun on your holiday, and make sure you don’t let your insecurities get in the way of that – it’s just not worth it!
Watch this video to find out all about the vulva art project. These two incredible and inspirational women are aiming to get to the root of body-shaming and are encouraging women to embrace and celebrate their bodies and love their vulvas.
To participate in the project or for more information, contact me at firstname.lastname@example.org
I recently found this golf ball sized lump inside my vagina although it only becomes painful during intercourse it’s very scary for me to experience this. I’ve been looking for ways to figure out the problem. I have heard people say that they experienced something similar after having children but I gave birth over 3 years ago and developed this “thing” within the last 3 or 4 months. I’m 19 and scared out my mind. Please help…
The most important thing at this stage is to identify with certainty what the lump / growth is. It may be completely harmless or it may be something more serious which requires attention, but panicking and searching the internet for a diagnosis will probably only cause worry and panic, and is likely to result in a misdiagnosis.
The first step is for you to make an appointment with a gynecologist to get it checked out by a knowledgeable professional. This will probably require a physical examination and may also require a biopsy or some other tests.
Once your doctor has identified the cause, at least you will know what you are dealing with and your options for dealing with it.
Please let me know how it goes. In the meantime I will be keeping you in my thoughts.
I’m 18 years old and I don’t have any inner labia at all. But I didn’t know that this was unusual until I watched some of my boyfriend’s porn movies and I saw all the ladies have inner lips that kind of hang out… I was shocked and kinda disgusted, but also not sure if this meant that I was abnormal or unattractive. My boyfriend has not made any negative comments about my lips so I guess they’re ok.
All women have labia minora (inner labia) – some are just smaller than others, and some are tucked inside the labia majora (outer labia) and are not visible from the outside.
It is not uncommon to have the labia minora tucked inside the labia majora, just as it is not uncommon to have visible labia minora. Around half of all women fall into each of these categories.
In the past few years, mainstream porn has mainly depicted women with tucked-in inner labia similar to yours, but there has recently been a change, and more women with visible labia minora are being depicted in porn. The vulvae of women represented in porn are not representative of the average woman’s vulva, and are a source of many misconceptions regarding what is considered attractive and normal.
I’m 20 years old and very self-conscious of my private parts. I have lopsided labia which lean to the right side and I am constantly aware of them. I wish I could just cut them off. Do they look deformed to you?
It is fairly common to have asymmetry in the labia, and from where I’m sitting, yours are well within the normal range.
The widespread use among women of terms such as “deformed” when referring to normal parts of their anatomy, shows how society’s perception of beauty has been skewed by misinformation out there.
Spend some time browsing through the other posts and you will see that there is a huge range of “normal” out there.
Thank you for being brave enough to open up through your submission. If you need someone to talk to in confidence about your issues, you are more than welcome to e-mail me on email@example.com
I’m 26 years old and of asian descent. I have these small white patches of skin on my vagina and around my anus. It makes me feel super self conscious. Can something be done to make the colour even?
There are a few possible causes of white patches the vulva. These include a fairly common condition known as Lichen Sclerosus which is characterised by small pearly white spots developing on the vulva and around the anus.
I would suggest seeing a gynecologist or a dermatologist who can give you a medical diagnosis and advise you on any steps that can be taken to address any condition that you may have.
If it is Lichen Sclerosis, there is no permanent cure for the condition, but there are a few treatment options available, including topical steroids (steroid creams) which can assist in reducing the appearance of the white patches and assist in managing the condition.
I have what looks like a vein on the left of my labia by my vagina. The best way I can describe it is like a puffy vein running along the side of the labia. It looks like a worm, and I feel really embarrassed about it and want to avoid showing it to the doctor if I can. What could it be?
It’s difficult to say what it is based only on your description but it sounds like it could be a varicose vein. However, trying to self-diagnose using the internet is generally not a good idea, and the best way to get a diagnosis of what it is, is to see a gynecologist or a physician.