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Why is my vagina sagging?

why is my vagina saggingwhy is my labia saggingI’m 25 years old and I have noticed a change in my vagina over the past couple of months. Why is my vagina sagging? The left side is sagging more than the right and it is annoying how it gets caught on my underwear and clothing especially during sports activities.

It is normal for women to experience changes to their labia minora throughout their lives. This can include some growth, changes in colour (which usually involves darkening), and changes in texture.

The changes can be triggered by hormonal factors, and genetics also play a large role in the process. Natural childbirth can also cause some lasting physiological changes in women, although the vagina is a very elastic organ and generally retains its shape despite childbirth.

The hormonal and genetic changes are alarming for many women who panic and mistakenly assume that something is wrong. They are a normal part of womanhood and are not a cause for concern.

Have a look at my reply in this post for some tips on clothing options which might help with the discomfort that you experience during sports activities.

Clare xo

How to keep the vagina clean

how to keep the vagina cleanThere is a common misconception out there that it is necessary for women to regularly clean their vagina (the inside of their genital anatomy) by using soap or other products. However, the reality is that this can do more harm than good, and the body has its own mechanism to keep the vagina clean.

The vaginal discharge that is often considered annoying and even unsanitary, is part of the vagina’s mechanism for keeping the vagina clean. It flushes out dirt and pathogens. The vagina also contains good bacteria called lactobacilli which keep the PH balance (i.e. the acidity / alkalinity balance) on the more acidic side. This makes it difficult for harmful pathogens to multiply.

Using soaps and other cleaning products can irritate the tissue in the vagina and affect the delicate PH balance, creating conditions for bad bacteria and pathogens to multiply.

That being said, it is a good idea to clean the vulva (the outside genital area) regularly, and this should be done using plain water and a cloth. If you absolutely have to use soap, use unscented soap and be careful to ensure that it does not enter the vaginal canal. Glycerin soap is ideal for this.

It is also not a good idea to douche the vagina, as this may also result in a PH imbalance and may affect the good bacteria. Even douches and products which claim to maintain the PH balance are usually more harmful than beneficial, and should be avoided.

Another reason to let the vagina do its own thing in terms of cleaning itself, is that cleaning the vagina make you more vulnerable to contracting a STD. The lactobacilli provide a level of protection against STDs, and this protection is compromised by doing anything which affects the lactobacilli.

At the end of the day, remember that your body is smarter than you think, and your body has its own mechanisms to keep the vagina clean and healthy.

How to get rid of my protruding pubic bone

I am now 16 and for the longest time I have been looking into know how to get rid of my protruding pubic bone. It has always bothered me because I thought it was weird and that I was different and everything, so I was so self conscious because of wearing bikinis, shorts etc. I even have to have sex with the light off because I am so worried about it. At the end of the day though no one has ever said anything to me and I guess we all just need to get on with life, because the person you are with doesn’t want you for your vagina they want you because its you.

Thank you for getting in touch.

You are absolutely right that if the person you are with truly cares about you and is with you for the right reasons, this won’t matter.  What is most important is for you to be sure that you are ready to be in a sexual relationship with the person in the first place.

It is common for some women to have pubic bones that protrude slightly, and it is usually not something to be worried about. I often get contacted by women regarding the topic “how to get rid of my protruding pubic bone”.

Here are some tips that you may find useful:

  • Wear dark-coloured or patterned swimsuits (this will make it less obvious)
  • Wear loose-fitting swimming shorts / board-shorts / shorts
  • Wear lycra underwear or underwear with a lining / padding

Clare xo

I hate my fat vagina

hate my fat vagina 5 hate my fat vagina 4 I hate my fat vaginaI’m 32 years old and I hate my fat vagina. I weigh 185 lbs and I have included a picture of my upper body so that you can see my vagina in perspective. It sticks out a lot to the point where I can’t wear any skin-tight pants or a swimsuit. I have not seen anything like it on your site, most of the women are not overweight and do not have so much excess fat down there.

It is fairly common among larger women to have more fat in the vulva area (as with other areas of the body). Weight distribution is not limited to only certain parts of the body and not others.

That said, from where I’m sitting, there does not appear to be anything that is a major cause for concern. If you would like to lose some of the excess fat in your vulva area, a general weight loss plan may be helpful.

With regard to your comment that most pictures on this site are of women with lower levels of fat, this site is for all women. I don’t have control over who decides to make a submission, but I welcome submissions from all women irrespective of their physiology and body types.

Clare xo 

My labia minora has a greyish black tint

labia minora has a greyish black tintI am 22 years old. My labia minora has a greyish black tint at certain areas, which I went in to get checked out, and my doctor said it was perfectly normal and that everything looked fine. I am now in a sexual relationship and he has never said anything about it, but I am constantly worried about what he may be secretly thinking. I only have sex with the lights dimmed or off so that it is not that obvious.

Based on your picture, your vulva looks normal and healthy. Spend some time looking through the submissions on this site and you will see that there is a big spectrum of variations in labia minora pigmentation, and it is very common to have darker skin in that area. 

If your partner is mature and genuinely into you, he won’t have a problem with the colour of your labia and will love you for you. The more important thing is for you to love you for you.

Clare xo

Unequal labia lengths

Almost all of my friends, myself included, have discovered that we have unequal labia lengths. I’ve been doing quite a bit of research as well, and it’s just about the most natural thing in the world. Its kind of like birthmarks or moles. It just IS. Be proud chicas 😉 Your body loves to be loved 🙂

Thanks for sharing! I absolutely love your positive attitude!

Clare xo

Vulva art project – Darkened labia minora and anus

darkened labia minora and anusMany aesthetic clinics offer anal bleaching as a cosmetic treatment, even through the use of bleaching products in such a sensitive area can be harmful to the skin. The fourteenth picture in the vulva art project series is called Darkened Labia Minora and Anus. It is aimed at showcasing and celebrating the normal variations in pigmentation that many women have.

If you would like to participate in the vulva art project, reach out to me at


Female with white pubic hair

I am a healthy 26 year old female with white pubic hair. When I first noticed it I freaked out! I am blonde and I have no white or gray hair on my head, only down there. My husband is my high school sweetheart and we have been together since I was 17. I am mortified to tell him about this and have decided to trim and shave my pubic hair as much as I can without looking like a 8 year old girl. Is this normal? What can I do to fix this?

You are not alone. Many women experience graying of their pubic hair during their lives, which can begin anytime from their teenage years to their older years.

There are many factors which can cause this.

Genetics is the main cause among many women. A diet lacking in vitamin B or protein can cause also premature graying on the body, so you could try taking vitamin B supplements and increasing your protein intake. Another possible cause is stress and anxiety, so minimizing your stress level may help to slow down the development of gray / white pubic hair.

Many women who experience graying of their pubic hair are completely healthy, and it is generally not something to be concerned about from a health perspective.

Clare xo

Proud of my vagina

proud of my vagina

24 years old and proud of my vagina. It may not be all neat and tucked in but it’s mine and gives me a lot of pleasure. Want to share as long as it’s anonymous.

Beautiful <3

Thank you for contributing to the project!

All posts are published anonymously – I have a strict policy against divulging any personal details on the site.

Clare xo