I got a labiaplasty 4 months ago and got my labia majora fused together with labia minora. My labia are still rubbing on my underwear and getting caught up. I am very disappointed with the results and feel like I got mutilated by my surgeon. I have gone through a lot of anxiety for nothing. 10 years I waited to get the courage to go through with the surgery and I finally got it done. Here I am still insecure still bothered by it every day of my life.
Thank you for being brave enough to share your pictures and your story. It is so important for experiences like yours to be shared. Women view labiaplasty surgery as a quick-fix, but it often leads to more harm than good, and many womens’ expectations are not met. The surgery can often also get botched, with the labia majora fused together with labia minora, or too much tissue being removed.
A huge industry has developed around what is known as “labiaplasty revision surgery”, which is surgery for women who are unhappy with their labiaplasty results and are looking to reverse or re-do the procedure in the hope of getting a better result. The term “labiaplasty revision surgery” is actually a misnomer, as a labiaplasty can never be reversed completely. At best, the process can result in the aesthetic appearance being somewhat similar to the pre-surgery appearance.
I don’t encourage anyone to undergo labiaplasty surgery without first seeing a counsellor, psychologist or other professional to either attempt to assist them to accept their body as it is, or to manage the emotional consequences of going through with the surgery.
I hope that things get better for you, and that you are able to manage the discomfort as best as you can. I also strongly advise speaking to a professional about your feelings. Opening up in a safe environment is a very important part of the emotional healing process, and one which is often overlooked.
I have abnormally long labia which is very loose, and I absolutely hate it. When I was younger, I would fantasize about cutting it off with scissors.
Compared to other large labias, it’s just so long.
How do I accept it and learn to love it?
Hopefully finding this site was the first big step in your journey towards self-acceptance. You will see that this site features hundreds of submissions by women who experience similar insecurities as you, and who are all absolutely normal.
It would also be a good idea for you to find a qualified professional (counselor or psychologist) who you can open up to and discuss your insecurities with.
Facing the issue head-on is never easy, but it is important to do so. Many people underestimate the power of speaking through things. With insecurities of this sort, it is often the only way to deal with it and get to a point of accepting and embracing the unique beauty that mother nature has blessed you with.
i have had this problem all of my life but i never really thought much of it and since taking health class at school i learnt that your labia minora is meant to change in size and shape but i honestly thought it was normal but now i dont cause occasionally i get a burning or rough sore feeling in my labia minora or in the area my clitoris is it also burns when i pee and i can only wear dresses and skirts cause it hurts when i wear tight fitting shorts ,skinny jeans or tights it even hurts when i wear underwear. I dont masterbate and i have only had one boyfriend but we never had sex its only until now its starting to really bother me i am pretty sure i have had this all my life i am now 17 and i get really insecure about it.
Thanks for getting in touch.
While changes in labia minora size are normal, the pain and discomfort that you are experiencing is not.
There are a number of conditions that can cause the symptoms that you describe, including urinary tract infections, a yeast infection (if you have white, clumpy discharge), or bacterial vaginosis.
Your best bet would be to make an appointment with a gynecologist for an examination. That way, you can get an accurate diagnosis and a prescription for the necessary treatment to address the problem. I recommend speaking to your parents about the problem so that they can help you to source the necessary medical attention
I also know that an intimate medical examination can be a stressful and uncomfortable experience. It is important to go through with it in order to address the root cause of the problem rather than letting it linger and perhaps get worse by being left unattended.
Good luck and please keep me updated on how things so.
I am so embarrassed of my vagina. Nothing makes me feel better about it, and I’m terrified to have sex for the first time because of it. All of my friends are having sex or doing things and more importantly I WANT to, but I’m terrified to let anyone touch me or even look at me down there. I don’t know what to do, my Labia minora are huge and my labia majora are a completely different colour to my skin? I am 18 btw
From where I’m sitting, your vulva is completely normal. There is a big spectrum of normal labia minora sizes, and yours are well within that spectrum. There are also many variations in vulva coloration, and it is not unusual for the labia to be darker than the surrounding skin.
Sex can be a daunting experience (especially the first time), as you are sharing your most intimate side with someone else. It is natural to be worried about being judged by your partner.
Most guys would be so thrilled that they are getting some, that they would not be focused on analyzing your vulva and passing judgment. The most important thing is to do it with someone who you feel comfortable with, and who is into you for the right reasons.
Sometimes my labia gets pushed in during sex with my husband and that doesn’t feel too nice. If I wear small cute underwear then one can slip out the side of my underwear and it is very uncomfortable. I basically stick to bikini cotton underwear because of it.
You should try out different lubes for sex and find one that works for you. Some are more pricey, but it’s worth it to use a lube that gets rid of the discomfort and avoids your labia from getting pulled in by your husband’s penis when he enters you.
You could also try wearing boyshorts. There are some cute ones available, and this well avoid “slippage” and prevent pinching or tugging of your labia.
I recently turned 19 and I’m sexually active. I’m extremely self conscious of my inner vaginal lips. They are long and get caught on my partner’s penis during sex. I sometimes wish I could just cut them off. I’m saving up for surgery so that I can get them reduced.
Thank you for being brave enough to share your story and picture. Please don’t rush into getting surgery, as it’s a big step and an irreversible procedure. Have a look at this submission from a woman who got labiaplasty surgery and has lived to regret it.
Your labia look to be within normal range, and your vulva is very pretty if I might be so bold as to say so. I hope that you can come to terms with it and get past your insecurities over time.
There are ways of reducing your discomfort during sexual intercourse without resorting to surgery. You should use a lot of lube to make entry smooth, and try to ensure that he enters you from an angle that avoids your labia getting caught during thrusting motions.
I’m 22 years old. After years of self-loathing I can finally say that thanks to this site I have accepted myself and can honestly say I love my labia! Wanted to share a picture for all those women going through a similar struggle.
Thank you so much for your lovely picture, and for your inspirational words of encouragement to the women out there who are going through what you went through 🙂
I hate my labia and I feel like my vagina isn’t normal. I’ve been trying to come to terms with it lately but I just can’t seem to get past it. I definitely wanna become sexual active but I just feel like I can’t. I’m too afraid that my boyfriend will think it’s gross.
You are not alone. Thousands of women out there experience insecurities regarding their vulvas. I get contacted regularly by women who are convinced that their vulvas are abnormal.
Please spend some time looking through the submissions on this site. You will see how much variety and diversity is out there, and how normal and beautiful the variations are.
If your boyfriend truly cares about you, he will love your body as it is, and he won’t have a negative thought about your labia. If he has something negative to say, you will know that he’s not deserving of your time and intimacy.
im from austria. i found your homepage with interest and want to submit my pictures to you. u have to know that i love my labia now. when i was a teen i didnt but now i love to see how it changes from a normal shape to the shape when im horny, see how its changing from smaller to larger. isnt it beautiful?
It’s absolutely beautiful! It’s amazing to see how much it changes in different states of arousal.
Thank you for submitting <3
Hello I was wondering if you’d be able to help me, the right side of my labia has a tear in it I don’t know how the tear came about, 80/90% of the time it doesn’t cause me any bother but sometimes it feels like it’s a little irritated and sometimes a tiny bit itchy I’m not sure whether it would be worth seeing my gp or not? Many thanks
Vaginal tears (known as fissures) are usually caused by physical trauma as a result of activities such as sex, fingering, horse-riding, cycling or accidents. They typically heal quickly without the need for medical intervention.
It is generally advisable to be checked out if fissures don’t heal, bleed, seem infected, or are accompanied by abnormal discharge pain and discomfort.
Given that yours is causing minimal discomfort, I would advise monitoring the situation over time. If there is no improvement fairly soon, or if it gets worse and your discomfort levels increase, it would be a good idea to see a doctor to have it checked out.