Category Archives: Submissions

I have a horrible looking vagina

I have a horrible looking vaginaI’m 21 years old and I have a horrible looking vagina. The skin looks like hamburger meat and the area around the clitoris is big as well. Does insurance blue care network and medicade cover surgery if it is causing pain? I can’t even wear leggings or yoga pants or bathing suits because of my problem. Please help!

Thank you for getting in touch, and I’m sorry to hear that you are experiencing embarrassment and discomfort from your vulva (the outer part of your genital area which includes your labia and clitoris).

Most health insurance schemes don’t cover the cost of labiaplasty surgery as they consider it to be an elective cosmetic surgery rather than a medically necessary procedure. As a result, most labiaplasty patients have to foot the bill for their own surgery (which can be upwards of $4000).

Based on your picture, while you do have some excess skin in your labia minora, there is nothing unattractive about your vulva, and your vulva is unique and beautiful in its own way.

I hope that you will reconsider your decision to undergo surgery. It may help to make some lifestyle changes to reduce or eliminate the physical discomfort that you are experiencing. My reply to this post contains some tips which may help to reduce your level of physical discomfort.

I hope this helps! Please let me know what you ultimately decide with regard to surgery.

Clare xo

Struggled with loving my labia

loving my labia29 year old who struggled with loving my labia when I was younger, but now pages and projects like this have helped me love my labia.

Thank you for your wonderful submission 🙂 I am so happy to hear that this project has helped to make a difference in your life.

Clare xo

Why are my vagina flaps long

Why are my vagina flaps longvagina flapsI’m 24 years old and I have been self conscious of my vagina since I became aware of it during my early teens. Why are my vagina flaps long like this? It has put me off doing anything sexual either with myself or with a partner. I want to lose my virginity like many of my friends have done but I constantly have this fear that my partner will think my vagina is ugly or abnormal because of how my vagina flaps look.

Thank you for being brave enough to make a submission.

Based on your pictures, your labia minora (the technical term for what you refer to as your “vagina flaps”) are not longer than average, and are absolutely normal.

The submissions on this site will give you a good idea of what the average woman’s vulva looks like, as they are from regular women, many of whom experience similar insecurities as you.

Clare xo

I love my big lips

I guess I am not really the typical visitor as I love my big lips. There are so many ways that you can enjoy them! My large labia are really the main source of my pleasure. They were protruding and big even when I was young but now they are really huge. I love to stretch, tug and play with them and I’m also pierced to provide more interesting possibilities.

I had very few partners who didn’t like their appearance at first glance. With time they all admitted that having oral on them or playing with them is pure fun. I also had many girlfriends who adored them and actually they envied me that they could give me so much kinky opportunities for pleasing me. On all this I also wrote a book (Labia Tales) but I guess this is not the place for promoting.

I only want to encourage all who is blessed with meaty pussy lips to enjoy what you have and show to your partners how lucky they are that they can take part in something unique and wonderful!

Thank you for your submission 🙂 I’m loving your positive attitude – it’s great to hear that you get so much pleasure and enjoyment from your large labia!

Clare xo

Hemorrhoids inside my vagina

I think I have hemorrhoids inside my vagina. I just found all these skin taggy, rough to touch things lumps of skin inside my vaginal opening. Nothing on the outside bust just inside. I am really worried I’ve had cancer growing for that long or something really abnormal is going on. Trying to get some reassurance. What could this be?

What you are describing could be one of many things including remnants of the hymen (referred to as hymenal tags), vaginal papules or vestibular papillae (which are not contagious and are harmless), genital warts (a contagious STI), or a number of other conditions.

I suggest making an appointment with your gynecologist in order to undergo a physical examination and get a definitive diagnosis. While the internet is a useful source of information, self-diagnosing is often inaccurate as there is a lot of misinformation on the web, and subjective perceptions of what you are experiencing, coupled with paranoia, can often cloud the diagnosis.

Please let me know what your gynecologist says once you have a diagnosis.

Clare xo

Make a Submission

This blog is driven by submissions from users of their pictures, experiences and stories. Submissions are a huge help to others who may be going through the same struggles. To make a submission, e-mail

All submissions are treated with the strictest discretion and confidence, and your name will never be published on the site.

Told my younger sister that her vagina looked weird

I made the mistake of being a teenager and telling my younger sister that her vagina looked weird. I’ve never forgiven myself. She has protruding inner labia and what I should have said is you look DIFFERENT than me. Just like we don’t have the same nose, eyes, hair, etc. She has never forgotten it either.

So what I’m saying is different doesn’t mean wrong or broken, it just means different and it’s ok to be a little different.

(And I hope no one thinks this is weird but we have a very open family and shared a bathroom. So yes, I’ve seen my sister in the nude as grown women.)

Thank you for sharing.

Clearly you made the comment without any ill-intent, and as a result of your lack of knowledge at the time regarding what is normal. Your story just goes to show how much damage can be done to someone’s self-esteem through an uninformed comment (even if it was made innocently).

This project is aimed, in part, at educating women about what is normal, in order to destroy the perception that women with labia which are larger, more frilly or darker in colour than others, are somehow abnormal or unattractive.

Clare xo

My big vagina lips

My big vagina lipsbig vagina lips 2I’m 23 years old and when I was young I wanted surgery because I didn’t think I’d ever be able to find my vagina attractive. I told my gynecologist about my big vagina lips and she looked at me like I was nuts! She told me I was beautiful and said I was over reacting and how it’s completely normal! Shout out to my gyno for doing that. She didn’t need to but she did. So now I’m telling you!!!

Thank you for sharing 🙂 It’s great that you raised your insecurity with your gynecologist early on and got reassurance that you are totally normal. Many women are too embarrassed to raise this topic, and instead, go through their entire lives feeling self-conscious or ashamed, and believing that something is wrong with them.

Clare xo

Larger dangling type of labia


 larger dangling type of labia

As you can see in the photo I have more of the larger dangling type of labia. I never had a problem with them until I saw the term “beef curtains” and as you can see would actually probably fit me perfectly but the guys opinions were harsh and they mocked it and so I became extremely self conscious. How can I love my body?

I HATE the term “beef curtains” as it is a derogatory term which has been coined by immature college guys who objectify women and have no regard for their feelings.

The reality is that labia come in all shapes and sizes. Yours are well within normal range (just take a look around this website and you will see that!) and you have nothing to be concerned about.

I’m so sorry that you had to experience the immaturity of those idiots. They are clearly ignorant about what is normal, and their opinion should not make you have a negative opinion of yourself.

By reaching out to me and asking how you can love your body, you have already started the journey towards self-acceptance. Hopefully browsing through the hundreds of submissions on this website will also help – it is here as a resource to spread education about what is normal and to promote body pride among women everywhere.

Clare xo