Category Archives: Submissions

I have an innie vagina

The only guy who has seen my vagina is my husband, he has said nothing but nice things about what he sees down there! Smart man!! It seems like most women who have made submissions on here have outies. Actually I have an innie vagina, which he finds attractive, I don’t doubt if I had an outie that he wouldn’t find that attractive either!

Thank you for sharing.

It sounds like your husband is a really great guy!

Clare xo

16 years old and insecure about my vagina

I’m 16 years old and insecure about my vagina. I’ve been insecure for a very long time. My inner thighs and labia are a lot darker than the rest of my skintone and my inner labia sticks out and looks ugly. I’ve tried to look up how to lighten the skin down there but I haven’t found anything useful. My boyfriend wants to have sex with me and im scared he will judge me for how I look. I dont know what to do anymore i’m so insecure.

I’m proud of you for having the courage to open up about your insecurities.

I need to reassure you that there is nothing wrong with you. It is completely normal to have darker pigmentation in the vulva and inner thigh area, and although this is most prevalent among women of color, many Caucasian women have this too.

The same goes for labia minora (inner lips) that protrude (stick out) from the labia majora (outer lips). I ran a poll on the Labia Project to find out what percentage of visitors have innies vs outies. Although I was expecting around half of all women to have outies, the results were that around 80% of women have outies.

Based on your submission, I am setting up a new Vulva Color Poll on the Labia Project to find out just how common it is to have darker skin down there. Please keep an eye on the poll results.


Clare xo

I have a protruding clitoris

I have a protruding clitoris. I used to feel like a freak and hide it in gym – even till the age of maybe 20. I think it’s a huge sign of maturity to grow to be perfectly ok with it, or love it like I do! Makes arousal way easier / everything sexual feel better, in my unproveable belief. And I saw a movie recently with a bunch of hot naked girls & to my surprise a couple had big clits and/or inner labia 🙂 I don’t like the look of my inner labia sticking out but also feel pleasantly indifferent to it if that makes sense.

Thank you for sharing your story.

It sounds like you have gone along way in your journey towards accepting and embracing your clitoris and labia the way they are.

There is some scientific evidence that women who have a larger clitoris have more nerve endings and experience more intensity through stimulation, so it can definitely have its benefits!

Clare xo

insecure about my asymmetrical labia

I’m only 16 and I have been extremely insecure about my asymmetrical labia my whole life. I’ve always been too scared for a serious boyfriend because I know that at some point we’re going to have to get sexually active and I feel embarrassed. I’m actually so grateful I found this site as I know there are so many people out there who’s vaginas look like mine!

Thank you for sharing. It is actually very common to have asymmetrical labia – many women have this to differing extents (some more obvious than others).

Everybody is unique, and this is part of what makes you, you 🙂

Clare xo

My daughter has large lopsided labia

My daughter has large lopsided labia, very large and asymmetrical. When she complained I pulled up subs on here and showed her how much diversity there is. She’s only seen herself and mine (i barely have inner labia at all) in real life. She is now much more comfortable and I would try to talk her out of surgery if that’s what she wanted.

Thank you for sharing your story. I’m glad that the Labia Project has been a useful resource in educating your daughter about her body.

The fact that you and your daughter have such big differences in labia even though you are genetically connected, just goes to show that no two vulva are the same, and diversity is the norm. 

Clare xo

4 inch labia minora measurement

4 inch labia minora measurementI have always had long labia minora and I decided to measure them today to see how big they actually are. I have a 4 inch labia minora measurement on the one side and 3 inches on the other side. Here is a picture of the measurement of the longer side. Is it normal for the sizes to be uneven like this? I do not have any physical discomfort but is 4 inches too long?

Thank you for your submission.

Labia asymmetry (having one side of the labia different from the other) is very common and completely normal. One study estimated that almost half of all women have labia asymmetry to some extent (some is just more obvious than others).

Labia sizes also vary hugely. This study found that while 4cm (1.7 inches) was the average labia minora size among participants, labia lengths among participants ranged hugely, and included labia that were 10cm (4 inches) long.

Clare xo

I do not have a clitoris

i do not have a clitorisI feel robbed and empty that I had no say or understanding to why I do not have a clitoris. Im posting this picture as validation that this is real because in everyday life no one knows this about me. Age 41

I’m so sorry that you have been going through this.

It is possible that you have a rare congenital defect called clitoral agenesis, also known as aphallia, in which the clitoris is absent.

It may also be that your clitoris is not visible as it extends deep below the surface of the vulva, and can sometimes not be visible from the outside. If you are able to get sexual stimulation and pleasure by rubbing / stimulating the area above your vaginal entrance, this will probably be the case.

It may help you to get some reassurance and expert advice, by seeing your gynecologist for a pelvic exam (if you have not done so already).

Clare xo

I have a weird vagina

growing up, i had seen porn videos, seen movies, heard how people talk, and that was when i realised that i have a weird vagina. i’m 17 now, and from a young age, i had believed that my vagina was weird because my labia wasn’t tucked in and was worried that i was different. i had many insecurities (my vagina, my weight, my flat nipples) and only recently, when having a conversation about sex with someone, did i decide to research more, and i’m glad i found this website because it has made me realise that my labia is totally normal and okay. porn is fake, and the representation of vaginas isn’t that great, unless you know where to look. in almost a day, i’m learning to love my body more and i’ve instantly become slightly less self conscious in the way my vagina looks. i’m so so grateful for this page, and to all the women who have shared their experiences/feelings as it’s nice to know you’re not alone, and it’s nice to know that every single vagina is different and beautiful.

Thank you for sharing your story. I’m so glad to hear that you’re learning to love and accept your body!

Clare xo