Category Archives: Submissions

Golf ball sized lump inside my vagina

I recently found this golf ball sized lump inside my vagina although it only becomes painful during intercourse it’s very scary for me to experience this. I’ve been looking for ways to figure out the problem. I have heard people say that they experienced something similar after having children but I gave birth over 3 years ago and developed this “thing” within the last 3 or 4 months. I’m 19 and scared out my mind. Please help…

The most important thing at this stage is to identify with certainty what the lump / growth is. It may be completely harmless or it may be something more serious which requires attention, but panicking and searching the internet for a diagnosis will probably only cause worry and panic, and is likely to result in a misdiagnosis.

The first step is for you to make an appointment with a gynecologist to get it checked out by a knowledgeable professional. This will probably require a physical examination and may also require a biopsy or some other tests.

Once your doctor has identified the cause, at least you will know what you are dealing with and your options for dealing with it.

Please let me know how it goes. In the meantime I will be keeping you in my thoughts.

Clare xo

I don’t have any inner labia

I don't have any inner labia

I’m 18 years old and I don’t have any inner labia at all. But I didn’t know that this was unusual until I watched some of my boyfriend’s porn movies and I saw all the ladies have inner lips that kind of hang out… I was shocked and kinda disgusted, but also not sure if this meant that I was abnormal or unattractive. My boyfriend has not made any negative comments about my lips so I guess they’re ok.

All women have labia minora (inner labia) – some are just smaller than others, and some are tucked inside the labia majora (outer labia) and are not visible from the outside.

It is not uncommon to have the labia minora tucked inside the labia majora, just as it is not uncommon to have visible labia minora. Around half of all women fall into each of these categories.

In the past few years, mainstream porn has mainly depicted women with tucked-in inner labia similar to yours, but there has recently been a change, and more women with visible labia minora are being depicted in porn. The vulvae of women represented in porn are not representative of the average woman’s vulva, and are a source of many misconceptions regarding what is considered attractive and normal.

Clare xo


Lopsided labia

lopsided labia

I’m 20 years old and very self-conscious of my private parts. I have lopsided labia which lean to the right side and I am constantly aware of them. I wish I could just cut them off. Do they look deformed to you?

It is fairly common to have asymmetry in the labia, and from where I’m sitting, yours are well within the normal range.

The widespread use among women of terms such as “deformed” when referring to normal parts of their anatomy, shows how society’s perception of beauty has been skewed by misinformation out there.

Spend some time browsing through the other posts and you will see that there is a huge range of “normal” out there.

Thank you for being brave enough to open up through your submission. If you need someone to talk to in confidence about your issues, you are more than welcome to e-mail me on

Clare xo

White patches of skin on my vagina

white patches of skin on my vaginaI’m 26 years old and of asian descent. I have these small white patches of skin on my vagina and around my anus. It makes me feel super self conscious. Can something be done to make the colour even?

There are a few possible causes of white patches the vulva. These include a fairly common condition known as Lichen Sclerosus which is characterised by small pearly white spots developing on the vulva and around the anus.

I would suggest seeing a gynecologist or a dermatologist who can give you a medical diagnosis and advise you on any steps that can be taken to address any condition that you may have.

If it is Lichen Sclerosis, there is no permanent cure for the condition, but there are a few treatment options available, including topical steroids (steroid creams) which can assist in reducing the appearance of the white patches and assist in managing the condition.

Clare xo

Vein on the left of my labia

I have what looks like a vein on the left of my labia by my vagina. The best way I can describe it is like a puffy vein running along the side of the labia. It looks like a worm, and I feel really embarrassed about it and want to avoid showing it to the doctor if I can. What could it be?

It’s difficult to say what it is based only on your description but it sounds like it could be a varicose vein. However, trying to self-diagnose using the internet is generally not a good idea, and the best way to get a diagnosis of what it is, is to see a gynecologist or a physician.

Clare xo

My vulva is very bulky and loose

I’m 14 years old and lesbian. I’ve never had oral sex with a girl before due to only just discovering my sexuality. I’m insecure about my vulva. The girl I like is rather flat ‘down there’ (due to seeing her in underwear) but my vulva is very bulky and loose and was just wondering what more experienced lesbians though of this. Honestly, would it be a turn off?

While I can’t speak for lesbian women out there, what I can confidently say is that among all women, straight and lesbian, there is a big range of variations in the spectrum of what would be considered normal vulva anatomy. Also (and this applies to all women, straight and lesbian), if someone is truly into you, they will accept you as you are.

Sexual attraction is a very subjective thing, and there are men and women out there who are attracted to every variation in vulva types. This includes people who prefer “innie labia”, “outtie labia”, and everything in-between.

Clare xo

Deeply grateful for this blog

I’m so deeply grateful for this blog and the great videos! You made me see that I’m absolutely “normal”. I guess that was what I needed to accept myself. Thank you a thousand times! You made me cry – because I’m lucky now 🙂 .
Lovely greetings from Germany

Thank you for your lovely message of support. Knowing that this blog is doing some good in the world, is my reward for the time and effort that I put into keeping the blog going.

Clare xo

Little piece of skin sticking out of my vagina

skin sticking out of my vaginaI’m 26 years old. I had two children vaginally. Since having my second child I have noticed this little piece of skin sticking out of my vagina. It gets pulled on during running which is very annoying. Can I get it clipped off?

The piece of skin that you are referring to is your labia minora. For most women, it is unnecessary to take any steps to get it removed, but if you are experiencing a high level of discomfort, a labiaplasty may be an option.

However, you will see from this site that I generally do not encourage labiaplasty and other types of surgery of the vulva, and going that route really should be a last resort if the discomfort is truly unmanageable and is genuinely affecting your life.

Clare xo

I love my vagina

i love my vaginaI’m 21 years old and after batting years of insecurities about all parts of my body, I can finally proudly say I love my vagina. I’m sharing a picture to help others out there who are going through insecurities with their vaginas.

Thank you for your lovely contribution and for encouraging others who are going through personal struggles with their body-image.

Clare xo

Why is my vagina sagging?

why is my vagina saggingwhy is my labia saggingI’m 25 years old and I have noticed a change in my vagina over the past couple of months. Why is my vagina sagging? The left side is sagging more than the right and it is annoying how it gets caught on my underwear and clothing especially during sports activities.

It is normal for women to experience changes to their labia minora throughout their lives. This can include some growth, changes in colour (which usually involves darkening), and changes in texture.

The changes can be triggered by hormonal factors, and genetics also play a large role in the process. Natural childbirth can also cause some lasting physiological changes in women, although the vagina is a very elastic organ and generally retains its shape despite childbirth.

The hormonal and genetic changes are alarming for many women who panic and mistakenly assume that something is wrong. They are a normal part of womanhood and are not a cause for concern.

Have a look at my reply in this post for some tips on clothing options which might help with the discomfort that you experience during sports activities.

Clare xo