Category Archives: Tips and Advice

The Benefits of Masturbation

I am often contacted by women who experience shame and insecurity with their bodies and are unable to enjoy masturbation or sex. There are also many taboos around discussing masturbation, especially in conservative environments where it is still considered a dirty deed. The truth is that masturbation is a great way to get in touch with your body (excuse the pun!) and is absolutely normal. Just about everyone does it, and it can lead to many benefits to your health and wellbeing! Check out this informative and lighthearted video about the benefits of masturbation:

Is it normal?

This feels like a safe place so I have a couple of questions 🙂 I have yellow dots on my inner labia. If they are fordyce spots, what are they and how can I get rid of them. Will they put people off from going down there. Also how do you know which way your hair grows. And how can I orgasm. Everyone at school says they have but I’ve never even thought about it. Finally is it normal to have hair grow around my bum hole . Oh and is it normal to have hair on my belly. I’m 15. Many thanks

Thank you for your questions 🙂

The dots are probably fordyce spots, which are basically enlarged oil glands / sebaceous glands which occur naturally in many people. They usually don’t require treatment (they are harmless), and it is unlikely that anyone would be put off by them as they are normal in males and females.

If they are unsightly and you have a severe case, it is possible to have them removed. Many dermatologists use micro-punch surgery to treat severe cases of fordyce spots. The treatment involves using a small device to punch the skin and remove unwanted tissue. The treatment is done using local anesthetic and the results are very quick. Laser treatments are also often used to treat severe cases of forcdyce spots, but there is a risk of scarring with laser treatment.

Fordyce spots can also fade naturally with age, so even in severe cases where the spots are unsightly, the issue often goes away on its own with time.

The easiest way to figure out the direction of the hair growth is by seeing the growth patterns after shaving or waxing for the first time. When the hair grows back, you will be able to clearly see the pattern in which it is growing.

Different women are able to orgasm through different types of stimulation. Some women can orgasm through penetration of the vagina (fingering or intercourse), while others can only orgasm through stimulation of the clitoris (which is the most sensitive part of the vulva). Some women also orgasm from pressure such as from the water flowing from a shower head / faucet directly onto the vulva. To figure out what works best for you, you will need to spend some time experimenting.

It is quite normal to have hair growth around the anus (bum hole) and to have a trail of hair between your belly button and your pubic area. Many women get this hair removed through waxing (there is a popular waxing treatment known as Brazilian waxing which removes all of the hair in these areas).

Clare xo


Submission guidelines

I recently received a submission from a female visitor to the Labia Project containing sexually suggestive photographs of her. These are completely inappropriate for publication on the Labia Project. I decided to put together these submission guidelines to provide clarity on what is acceptable and unacceptable when it comes to submissions:

  1. Many submissions that I receive contain pictures of genital nudity. This is great as it is an important part of the Labia Project – posts of those submissions serve to showcase the diversity in labia types, and these posts help many women to realize that they are normal.
  2. While I do publish images of genital nudity, I will never publish images of sexual acts or other sexually suggestive images, so please don’t bother sending pictures of that nature. This is not a porn site. It is a supportive community aimed at educating women about what is “normal”, and promoting body pride and self-acceptance.
  3. All picture submissions containing nudity must mention the submitter’s age.  I do not accept or publish any nude pictures of anyone under the age of 18.
  4. I generally only publish submissions from female visitors – this website is a supportive community specifically for women, and male views are generally not relevant or appropriate for publication. In some cases, I do make exceptions to this rule, but exceptions of that nature are rare.
  5. If you are submitting pictures, it is ideal for you to include a message which explains your personal journey when it comes to your labia, and how you feel about your labia. Similarly, if you are submitting a story, it is ideal for you to include pictures, as these will give me a better idea of what you are referring to when you refer to things that make you insecure, or things that you like or don’t like about your body.
  6. I have a strict policy of never publishing the names or any other identifying information of anyone who makes a submission. There is no need to specifically request anonymity in your submission. All submissions are published anonymously (although you are welcome to specifically request this if will make you feel more comfortable).
  7. If you are making a submission of pictures / a story which you do not want published, say so in your post. I will never publish a submission which you say you don’t want published.

Clare xo

Dr Susie Gronski – Pelvic Pain Specialist

I recently got to know about Dr Susie Gronski, a physiotherapist who specializes in pelvic health issues. As a pelvic pain specialist, she trains men and women on how to be their own expert in treating things when there’s trouble brewing in the nether regions. She is also very down-to-earth and knowledgeable – both essential traits in someone in her line of work.

Dr Susie G also hosts a podcast – take a listen to this episode which features an interview with Dr Danielle Jones (affectionately known as MamaDrJones), an obstetrician and gynecologist. It’s about all things va-jay-jay (including contraception and female health issues), and the Labia Project even got a shout-out during the interview!

Vaginal odor 101 – what do vaginas smell like?

One of the major insecurities experienced by women relates to their vaginal odor. This causes many women to refrain from allowing their partners to go down on them. Most vaginas have a musky odor, and this is nothing to worry about, but some women report having a fishy smell or a rotten smell down there.

If there is a noticeable foul odor coming from that area, this may be a sign of an infection such as bacterial vaginosis (an overgrowth of the bacteria normally present in the vagina) or a yeast infection. If this is the case, it would be a good idea to speak to your gynecologist about it.

You might also like to check out this video featuring two women talking about vaginal odors…

Does MyoTaut actually work

MyoTautI recently became aware of a product on the market called MyoTaut which is marketed as a non-surgical vaginal and anal tightening solution. Does MyoTaut actually work? I have done some online research to find the answer…

The MyoTaut website says this about how the product came about:

We began as a team of post pregnancy mothers who scoured the internet to find a solution to vaginal looseness. Two of us were chemists, and we new that there had to be a solution. We not only had this common problem, but we wanted to help others. You can easily stretch the skin, but how can you make it smaller?

This was our question and the reason for our quest; to find a permanent solution that could solve our problems. We discovered that if we took only the components from herbal extracts that work extracting from the plants matrix, we could have a serum that is 20 times better than anything on the market today. When we first seen the results we all celebrated because we know the pain of having an altered sex after pregnancy, or the embarrassment of having larger vaginal lips?

According to the MyoTaut website, the ingredients are water, aloe barbadensis leaf juice, Oak Gall, Hamamelis, glycerin, polysorbate-20, triethanolamine, carbomer, diazolidinyl urea, iodopropynyl, butylcarbamate, benzopphenone-4, propylene glycol, fragrance, acetic acid, blue 1, yellow 5.

I could not find any information detailing how its active ingredients actually work to reduce the labia size or tighten the vagina.

But what about people out there who have actually used the product?

There are mixed testimonials on the internet about its effectiveness. Some websites have testimonials from users who claim that MyoTaut has reduced the size of their labia within a matter of weeks, but there are also testimonials stating that it has had no effect other than causing a rash or other vaginal health issues.

For those who claim that it does work, this may also just be due to the placebo effect.

As a general rule, if something sounds too good to be true, it usually is. And a serum which costs $29.95 a bottle, and which is an alternative to labiaplasty surgery costing $5000, sounds to good to be true.

For most women who have insecurities with their vulva, the answer doesn’t like in a bottle or in a surgeon’s knife – it is internal, and can only truly be solved by confronting and overcoming those insecurities.

Clare xo

Tips on how to prevent queefing

I absolutely hate it when I queef! It sometimes happens during sex with my boyfriend and he always brings it up in public, just by making a fart noise. It has gotten to the point where after he does that, I wouldn’t talk to him for hours because it makes me feel bad. Do you have any tips on how to prevent queefing?

First of all, it sounds like your boyfriend is being very immature about the whole matter. Queefing (the sound of air which gets pushed into the vagina being released) is completely normal, and happens to many women.

Some tips for dealing with queefing during sex:

  • Try having him not thrust so fully. The cause is air being packed in your vagina as his head comes out (or most of the way out). If he stays more deeply submerged, then no air gets packed in.
  • Keep your knees together, and have his knees on the outside of yours.
  • Do it lying flat on your stomach with your legs together.
  • Remind him that it happens because of how perfectly you fit together… “Your big cock fits me so tightly that it makes an airtight seal.” Who could complain after that?

Clare xo

How to keep the vagina clean

how to keep the vagina cleanThere is a common misconception out there that it is necessary for women to regularly clean their vagina (the inside of their genital anatomy) by using soap or other products. However, the reality is that this can do more harm than good, and the body has its own mechanism to keep the vagina clean.

The vaginal discharge that is often considered annoying and even unsanitary, is part of the vagina’s mechanism for keeping the vagina clean. It flushes out dirt and pathogens. The vagina also contains good bacteria called lactobacilli which keep the PH balance (i.e. the acidity / alkalinity balance) on the more acidic side. This makes it difficult for harmful pathogens to multiply.

Using soaps and other cleaning products can irritate the tissue in the vagina and affect the delicate PH balance, creating conditions for bad bacteria and pathogens to multiply.

That being said, it is a good idea to clean the vulva (the outside genital area) regularly, and this should be done using plain water and a cloth. If you absolutely have to use soap, use unscented soap and be careful to ensure that it does not enter the vaginal canal. Glycerin soap is ideal for this.

It is also not a good idea to douche the vagina, as this may also result in a PH imbalance and may affect the good bacteria. Even douches and products which claim to maintain the PH balance are usually more harmful than beneficial, and should be avoided.

Another reason to let the vagina do its own thing in terms of cleaning itself, is that cleaning the vagina make you more vulnerable to contracting a STD. The lactobacilli provide a level of protection against STDs, and this protection is compromised by doing anything which affects the lactobacilli.

At the end of the day, remember that your body is smarter than you think, and your body has its own mechanisms to keep the vagina clean and healthy.

Female with white pubic hair

I am a healthy 26 year old female with white pubic hair. When I first noticed it I freaked out! I am blonde and I have no white or gray hair on my head, only down there. My husband is my high school sweetheart and we have been together since I was 17. I am mortified to tell him about this and have decided to trim and shave my pubic hair as much as I can without looking like a 8 year old girl. Is this normal? What can I do to fix this?

You are not alone. Many women experience graying of their pubic hair during their lives, which can begin anytime from their teenage years to their older years.

There are many factors which can cause this.

Genetics is the main cause among many women. A diet lacking in vitamin B or protein can cause also premature graying on the body, so you could try taking vitamin B supplements and increasing your protein intake. Another possible cause is stress and anxiety, so minimizing your stress level may help to slow down the development of gray / white pubic hair.

Many women who experience graying of their pubic hair are completely healthy, and it is generally not something to be concerned about from a health perspective.

Clare xo