Category Archives: Tips and Advice

Big clitoral hood caused by masturbation

Hi, my name is [name edited out – I don’t include any personal or identifying details on the site] and I am 12 years old and I am from Finland. (sorry for my bad English) I have been wondering about my big clitoral hood. Is my big clitoral hood caused by masturbation or what is a reason why it has been growing so big? I masturbate quite a lot, I use my fingers and sometimes a vibrator. I have been doing it about two years now, 3 – 4 days a week. Is that too much?

It’s a myth that masturbation can cause any physical changes to the vulva. The tissue down there is very elastic, and it would take a lot of trauma (such as natural childbirth) to cause any noticeable long-term changes. The changes you are experiencing are part of your natural development, and they are probably caused by your body releasing additional hormones during puberty.

With regard to the frequency of masturbation, it is healthy to masturbate often, and 3 to 4 days a week is perfectly fine. Many women masturbate every day, and that it also perfectly ok. Do what feels good to you, and do it as often as you like 🙂

Clare xo

Reoccuring yeast infections

I get reoccuring yeast infections and I get so itchy and swollen every few months, tried every prescription possible! Just keeps coming back. PLEASE HELP.

There are a number of different treatments on the market for yeast infections, and not all of them work for every woman.

There are antifungal medications which are available as creams and ointments. These usually need to be bought with a prescription from a doctor and are not available over the counter. There are also single dose oral medications in the form of tablets. These also require a prescription. There are also products including creams and suppositories which are available over the counter.

For more serious cases, your doctor might prescribe long-course vaginal therapy to clear up the infection. This can be in the form of an ointment, cream, tablet or suppository, and the treatment can last for up to two weeks.

There are also some home remedies that can be used, including boric acid, yoghurt (which contains probiotics), coconut oil and tea tree oil. While there is limited hard evidence to prove that these remedies actually work, many women swear by them, and there is a lot of anecdotal evidence on the internet about their efficacy.

I suggest that you speak to your doctor about the best course of treatment for you. It may be necessary to try many different options on the market to find out which one works for you.

Good luck!

Clare xo

Having an “imperfect vagina” is the new normal

There is a widely-held view that women who have an outtie, darker skin down there, and asymmetrical labia (one labia bigger than the other), have an imperfect vagina and are abnormal.

The polls that I have run on the Labia Project tell a different story.

Based on the poll results, around 80% of women (that’s four out of five women) have an outtie. Around two thirds of women have darker skin in their vulva area than the rest of their skintone. And around six out of ten women have labia asymmetry.

I decided to run the polls because it’s a way of gathering data to get an objective understanding of how common these traits are. Hopefully, the data from the polls will make it easier to convince women who perceive themselves to be abnormal, that nothing could be further from the truth.

Based on the numbers in the polls, having a tiny, symmetrical, tucked-in vulva, and light skin down there, is relatively uncommon and unusual.

Clare xo

The Benefits of Masturbation

I am often contacted by women who experience shame and insecurity with their bodies and are unable to enjoy masturbation or sex. There are also many taboos around discussing masturbation, especially in conservative environments where it is still considered a dirty deed. The truth is that masturbation is a great way to get in touch with your body (excuse the pun!) and is absolutely normal. Just about everyone does it, and it can lead to many benefits to your health and wellbeing! Check out this informative and lighthearted video about the benefits of masturbation:

Is it normal?

This feels like a safe place so I have a couple of questions 🙂 I have yellow dots on my inner labia. If they are fordyce spots, what are they and how can I get rid of them. Will they put people off from going down there. Also how do you know which way your hair grows. And how can I orgasm. Everyone at school says they have but I’ve never even thought about it. Finally is it normal to have hair grow around my bum hole . Oh and is it normal to have hair on my belly. I’m 15. Many thanks

Thank you for your questions 🙂

The dots are probably fordyce spots, which are basically enlarged oil glands / sebaceous glands which occur naturally in many people. They usually don’t require treatment (they are harmless), and it is unlikely that anyone would be put off by them as they are normal in males and females.

If they are unsightly and you have a severe case, it is possible to have them removed. Many dermatologists use micro-punch surgery to treat severe cases of fordyce spots. The treatment involves using a small device to punch the skin and remove unwanted tissue. The treatment is done using local anesthetic and the results are very quick. Laser treatments are also often used to treat severe cases of forcdyce spots, but there is a risk of scarring with laser treatment.

Fordyce spots can also fade naturally with age, so even in severe cases where the spots are unsightly, the issue often goes away on its own with time.

The easiest way to figure out the direction of the hair growth is by seeing the growth patterns after shaving or waxing for the first time. When the hair grows back, you will be able to clearly see the pattern in which it is growing.

Different women are able to orgasm through different types of stimulation. Some women can orgasm through penetration of the vagina (fingering or intercourse), while others can only orgasm through stimulation of the clitoris (which is the most sensitive part of the vulva). Some women also orgasm from pressure such as from the water flowing from a shower head / faucet directly onto the vulva. To figure out what works best for you, you will need to spend some time experimenting.

It is quite normal to have hair growth around the anus (bum hole) and to have a trail of hair between your belly button and your pubic area. Many women get this hair removed through waxing (there is a popular waxing treatment known as Brazilian waxing which removes all of the hair in these areas).

Clare xo


Submission guidelines

I recently received a submission from a female visitor to the Labia Project containing sexually suggestive photographs of her. These are completely inappropriate for publication on the Labia Project. I decided to put together these submission guidelines to provide clarity on what is acceptable and unacceptable when it comes to submissions:

  1. Many submissions that I receive contain pictures of genital nudity. This is great as it is an important part of the Labia Project – posts of those submissions serve to showcase the diversity in labia types, and these posts help many women to realize that they are normal.
  2. While I do publish images of genital nudity, I will never publish images of sexual acts or other sexually suggestive images, so please don’t bother sending pictures of that nature. This is not a porn site. It is a supportive community aimed at educating women about what is “normal”, and promoting body pride and self-acceptance.
  3. All picture submissions containing nudity must mention the submitter’s age.  I do not accept or publish any nude pictures of anyone under the age of 18.
  4. I generally only publish submissions from female visitors – this website is a supportive community specifically for women, and male views are generally not relevant or appropriate for publication. In some cases, I do make exceptions to this rule, but exceptions of that nature are rare.
  5. If you are submitting pictures, it is ideal for you to include a message which explains your personal journey when it comes to your labia, and how you feel about your labia. Similarly, if you are submitting a story, it is ideal for you to include pictures, as these will give me a better idea of what you are referring to when you refer to things that make you insecure, or things that you like or don’t like about your body.
  6. I have a strict policy of never publishing the names or any other identifying information of anyone who makes a submission. There is no need to specifically request anonymity in your submission. All submissions are published anonymously (although you are welcome to specifically request this if will make you feel more comfortable).
  7. If you are making a submission of pictures / a story which you do not want published, say so in your post. I will never publish a submission which you say you don’t want published.

Clare xo

Dr Susie Gronski – Pelvic Pain Specialist

I recently got to know about Dr Susie Gronski, a physiotherapist who specializes in pelvic health issues. As a pelvic pain specialist, she trains men and women on how to be their own expert in treating things when there’s trouble brewing in the nether regions. She is also very down-to-earth and knowledgeable – both essential traits in someone in her line of work.

Dr Susie G also hosts a podcast – take a listen to this episode which features an interview with Dr Danielle Jones (affectionately known as MamaDrJones), an obstetrician and gynecologist. It’s about all things va-jay-jay (including contraception and female health issues), and the Labia Project even got a shout-out during the interview!

Vaginal odor 101 – what do vaginas smell like?

One of the major insecurities experienced by women relates to their vaginal odor. This causes many women to refrain from allowing their partners to go down on them. Most vaginas have a musky odor, and this is nothing to worry about, but some women report having a fishy smell or a rotten smell down there.

If there is a noticeable foul odor coming from that area, this may be a sign of an infection such as bacterial vaginosis (an overgrowth of the bacteria normally present in the vagina) or a yeast infection. If this is the case, it would be a good idea to speak to your gynecologist about it.

You might also like to check out this video featuring two women talking about vaginal odors…

Does MyoTaut actually work

MyoTautI recently became aware of a product on the market called MyoTaut which is marketed as a non-surgical vaginal and anal tightening solution. Does MyoTaut actually work? I have done some online research to find the answer…

The MyoTaut website says this about how the product came about:

We began as a team of post pregnancy mothers who scoured the internet to find a solution to vaginal looseness. Two of us were chemists, and we new that there had to be a solution. We not only had this common problem, but we wanted to help others. You can easily stretch the skin, but how can you make it smaller?

This was our question and the reason for our quest; to find a permanent solution that could solve our problems. We discovered that if we took only the components from herbal extracts that work extracting from the plants matrix, we could have a serum that is 20 times better than anything on the market today. When we first seen the results we all celebrated because we know the pain of having an altered sex after pregnancy, or the embarrassment of having larger vaginal lips?

According to the MyoTaut website, the ingredients are water, aloe barbadensis leaf juice, Oak Gall, Hamamelis, glycerin, polysorbate-20, triethanolamine, carbomer, diazolidinyl urea, iodopropynyl, butylcarbamate, benzopphenone-4, propylene glycol, fragrance, acetic acid, blue 1, yellow 5.

I could not find any information detailing how its active ingredients actually work to reduce the labia size or tighten the vagina.

But what about people out there who have actually used the product?

There are mixed testimonials on the internet about its effectiveness. Some websites have testimonials from users who claim that MyoTaut has reduced the size of their labia within a matter of weeks, but there are also testimonials stating that it has had no effect other than causing a rash or other vaginal health issues.

For those who claim that it does work, this may also just be due to the placebo effect.

As a general rule, if something sounds too good to be true, it usually is. And a serum which costs $29.95 a bottle, and which is an alternative to labiaplasty surgery costing $5000, sounds to good to be true.

For most women who have insecurities with their vulva, the answer doesn’t like in a bottle or in a surgeon’s knife – it is internal, and can only truly be solved by confronting and overcoming those insecurities.

Clare xo