I hate my labia

I hate my labia puffed up anus

I’m 19 and I hate my labia so much. They have made me so insecure and caused so much discomfort it’s unreal I also hate my anus it’s so weird and puffed up and everything down there is so dark and has so much excess skin I hate it. Please help I’m ready to cut everything off myself I’m so self conscious about it and I feel like a freak.

I’m so sorry that you have experienced so much discomfort as a result of your labia.

Please don’t do anything drastic like trying to cut your labia off – not only could you get a nasty infection, but you may also cut a blood vessel which can lead to lots of blood and a trip to the emergency ward.

I can assure you that at an aesthetic level, you look healthy and normal. There are ways to reduce the physical discomfort caused by your labia. Read my reply to this post for some useful tips.

The biggest challenge that you will have to overcome is accepting your labia as they are. This is easier said than done, and will require you to work through your insecurities. Making this submission was the first important step in that journey. This post by Coach Jane will also help.

With regard to your anus, it looks like you may have had hemorrhoids (swollen veins, similar to varicose veins) at some point in the past. These are very common, and three quarters of all adults experience them at some point. They are also usually not a major medical concern, and if they cause any physical discomfort, they can be removed through a relatively minor procedure.

If you ever need someone to talk to about your insecurities, please don’t hesitate to e-mail me. I’m here to listen and will never be judgmental.

Clare xo

One thought on “I hate my labia

  1. Tanja

    Hi there
    At first please excuse my bad English I’m from Germany.
    I know so good how you feel, since my vulva looks almost the same. I’m now 21 years old and have think a lot about sugery. But with the time I learned to love how it looks down there. Example when go swimming, in the past I have leave my bikini on to take a shower, because I was ashamed about my vulva. But passing time by I saw other women in the shower, naked and the have also large labias. I understand that there is no norm and equal which size or color all vulvas are normal. We can not all look the same and I mean yes of course with a little bit loose skin down there it would probably look nicer than it is yet. But will you have all the hurt an maybe the risk off complications just for a good looking?! At least it costs a lot of money. For me I have made the descission to don’t think about a surgery anymore. This is only necessary when you have complications for example by riding a bike or riding a horse and brings you hurt.
    We are not alone with the large labia minora. There so much women out there. I think it’s normal how it is and we have other problems on the world that much worse than that.
    So just go out and don’t embarrassed about it. You are beautiful as you are! 🙂

    Lovely regards Tanja 🙂


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