First of all, a big thank you for this website, it has helped me so much with my self-confidence these last months. Now I don’t believe that my vulva is abnormal anymore, but only bigger than the average. I sometimes feel physical discomfort with my vulva and I just still have two difficulties that I’d like to talk about: –
First, I don’t feel at ease with wearing some types of pants such as jeans, because they are often too tight at the crotch. It makes me feel physically uncomfortable… So now I wear more skirts and flexible pants, but I’d like to wear comfortable jeans sometimes. Do you have any wearing tips for women like me please? For example, are there brands that take this difference into account and create fluider jeans? Or do I have to try the men’s department store…
I also have a sexual problem. Indeed, when I had sex with men, the penetration felt painful to me… Could it be because my labia minora exceed my vulva and rub too much during the intercourse? If so, what can I do about it?
Thanks in advance for your answer.
Thank you for your submission. I’m so happy to hear that the Labia Project has helped you to realize that your vulva is not abnormal in any way.
With regard to jeans, you need to find a cut and style that is more comfortable for you. Many jeans brands have a big range of styles to suit different tastes and preferences. Levi’s, for example, have a huge range of styles which includes looser cuts. The Levi’s website has details of their full range. Spend some time at your local mall trying on different styles to see which one suits your comfort level best and is not too tight at the crotch.
With regard to your second issue, lubrication might be the solution. If your natural lubrication is not enough to reduce chafing and friction during intercourse, you may wish to try out a lubricant to make things smoother – K-Y makes a number of excellent and inexpensive lubricants. You can look at the K-Y website to see what they have.
Please let me know how it goes with trying out my suggestions!