I’ve always been insecure about my labia and when I was younger I wrote your blog quite a few times being super positive about having large lips but lately I am struggling extremely badly with myself. After 7 years today I finally contacted a doctor for labiaplasty and I’m distraught about it because I’m emptying my savings to get this done. I have a boyfriend and he does not know about how big mine are, I’m very good at keeping them out of view and making excuses but it’s becoming obvious and I need to get the access skin snipped off so I can be happy within my life and with myself. I’m sorry if I used the wrong terms I’m just all over the place right now. I don’t know what to do I just want to cry as silly as it sounds. I’m so depressed about the way I look down there and I’m just unhappy in life because of them.
Thank you for being brave enough to open up about what you are going through, and I’m sorry to hear about your struggle.
Firstly, please know that you are not alone. The fact that this project exists, and the posts on it by hundreds of women, shows how many women out there have insecurities about the size of their labia.
Secondly, having a labiaplasty is a huge step and a labiaplasty is an irreversible procedure. While some women undergo the procedure due to their labia causing physical pain or discomfort and affecting their ability to perform various activities in their daily lives, far too many women get labiaplasty surgery for purely cosmetic reasons, and to improve their self-esteem and self-image.
Very often, those women could have come to terms with their labia and embraced their bodies through counselling and education, and there are many women out there who are dissatisfied with the results of their labiaplasty surgery. Do a google search for the term “botched labiaplasty” and you will see just how common it is for women to regret getting the surgery.
Before you go through the huge step of getting surgery, please see a counsellor or psychologist to discuss your concerns about how you perceive your vulva – talking about things often helps to put them into perspective. If you still decide to go through with the surgery after having spoken to professional, at least you will know that you have first tried to work through your insecurities and that you are doing the surgery as a last resort.