I’m so insecure about the size of my vagina lips and the color. If you know a way to lighten my lips.. please let me know 🙁 I don’t wanna hear “be positive everyone looks different” I know that but it’s hard. I’ve been dating my boyfriend for almost 2 years and I’ve never let him see down there.. I’m so insecure and he always watches porn and I’m ok with that and I just feel as though he wouldn’t think my lips are attractive.. recently I have been letting him touch me down there but rarely but I won’t let him see.
It’s clear that you already know that everyone’s vulva looks different, and there is a big range of variation in labia size and coloration. I’m also not going to tell you to “be positive”. That’s easier said than done, and self-acceptance can only come after a difficult process of confronting and overcoming your insecurities.
There are skin lightening and bleaching products out there which claim to be safe for the vulva area, but I have not tested any of them and cannot endorse any of them. Some specialty salons also offer treatments for this, but again, I’m not in the position to endorse any of them.
The Labia Project aims to be a tool to educate, to provide support, and to showcase diversity. I aim to encourage solutions from within, rather than cosmetic treatments which don’t address underlying issues. Body issues are complex, and the reality is that there is no quick-fix.
You should not feel like you have to hold back when it comes to intimacy due to the size or color of your labia. I sincerely hope that you find a solution which works for you and makes you happier and more comfortable with your body (whether in the form of a safe cosmetic treatment or through self-acceptance).