I’m in the same boat as a lot of women on here. I’ve read the positive comments and they’re wonderful to hear, but as a 21 year old with long dangly labia sexual encounters can be scary. I’ve only had one person mention it, and he said “oh wow you have big lips”, I was done there.
In high school, what I always heard was oh large lips she’s a hoe blah blah blah. It was like okay I’m a virgin and mine are like that. I guess it could be said that I’ve been traumatized mentally. I’m very insecure about my body and as I’ve seen some women on here expressing, I’m very uncomfortable wearing a bathing suit or a male/female see me in my underwear as I’m bi. That’s another issue, I get very uncomfortable with women because I know I’m different and I know how judgmental we can be. Which also goes hand in hand with being uncomfortable with a man as I’ve only really known other women to have really small labia and none to have long dangly labia like mine.
I feel like there’s something wrong with me and I honestly don’t know what to do. Surgery isn’t an option for me, I refuse to alter my body to please someone else, but I don’t know how to become more confident. I’m so scared to be judged for it or talked about behind my back. I’m not really sure what to do.
I’m so sorry that you have been at the receiving end of such insensitive comments. High school is an environment where misinformation is rife. Many womens’ insecurities are the result of things that are said during school, especially by boys (who obviously have little to no experience of the female anatomy, and are talking from a point of ignorance).
You will see from the Innie vs Outie Vagina Poll that I recently ran, that most women actually have labia minora that stick out of their labia majora, just like you.
The issues that you are experiencing are a product of an internal problem rather than an external problem. I’m glad that you mentioned that surgery isn’t an option for you. It shouldn’t be. You may wish to tell your gynecologist about your insecurities the next time you see her – he / she sees many vulvas every day, and will be able to reassure you that you are perfectly normal.