I am 25. When I was younger, I used to hate my vulva, because I thought it was not normal and that people would make fun of me because of it. I compared myself to other girls, and felt desperately different because my labia minora are out. At that time, I felt that surgery would be the only solution, even if I had no health problem with my vulva.
Then time has passed. Fortunately, I didn’t have the operation. Instead, I learnt about self-acceptance and body positivity. Progressively, I try to love myself as I am, including my vulva. I even feel lucky to have it (I never thought I would say that!) because it helps me question beauty standards. Body diversity is beautiful, no matter what society and especially porn tell us. Don’t listen to people that try to tear you down, you deserve the best.
I also chose not to shave or wax my vulva, because I love my hair. They protect me. You don’t have to feel obligated to wax if you don’t like it too.
Finally, thank you so much for your blog Clare, it helped me to feel better. That is why I felt like I had to participate to your simple yet revolutionary project to help other women too. Remember: you are beautiful just as you are!
Thank you for your lovely submission and for your words of encouragement 🙂