My clit resembles a penis

I am a 22 year old college student. Although I am touched and amazed by the beautiful submissions that are on this site, I still can’t help but to feel the insecurities that I have concerning my clitoris which is really big in my opinion. My clit resembles a penis of a newborn baby boy or at least Chyna the wrestler (r.i.p). I don’t mean to say this to be funny. I’m just very self conscious about my vagina because of this. I’ve never had sex with anyone before and I personally believe that my insecurities plays a part in me still being a virgin. I fear the possibility of scaring a guy off when he looks down there. I’ve seen forums online where men have mad fun of the appearances of big clits and this also makes me fearful of ever letting anyone see it. I apologize for not posting a picture for visualization, but this is something that has been troublesome for me since I was 13. 9 years later, I’m still dealing with my insecurities. Please, any feedback or opinions would be helpful. Hopefully hearing your encouraging words directly will help somewhat. Thanks and sorry for the long read.

I am proud of you for being brave enough to open up about your insecurities. It’s clear that you have struggled with this issue for many years, and I am sorry that you have gone through these insecurities which have held you back from enjoying your body.

Like labia, clitorises come in different sizes for different women, and some are more prominent than others. You may be viewing your clitoris as being a more extreme case than it actually is (without seeing a picture, it’s not possible for me to tell you whether it appears to be larger than the norm – you may wish to ask your doctor about this). It’s possible that even though it is on the more prominent side, it still falls within normal range. 

Many women report that having a more prominent clitoris leads to heightened sexual pleasure, as the clitoris is where most of the pleasure-inducing nerve endings are located in the vulva. So having a more prominent clitoris can actually be a plus for some women.

If your clitoris is much larger than the norm, it’s possible that this is caused by hormones in your body. An excess of androgen hormones (such as testosterone) can cause the clitoris to grow in size. Women with polycystic ovarian syndrome (PCOS) often have larger clitorises due to the increased androgen levels that result from PCOS.

You may wish ask your doctor if it is a hormonal issue. Hormone therapy may be prescribed if you have high androgen levels. Hormone therapy can reduce your clitoris’ size.

In some cases, doctors may also suggest reduction clitoroplasty, which is a surgical procedure used to reduce the clitoris size. This should only be done in extreme cases, where hormone therapy is not a solution.

I hope this helps!

Clare xo

Friend was venting about her labia being larger

So I had a friend who was venting about her labia being larger on Facebook in a secret group. I posted the link to the page and ended up getting locked out of my account because the thumbnail for the link was of one of the submission vaginas.

I love sharing this link to people who show insecurities, but I’m so disappointed in Facebook for blocking out this content as I find it educational!

The entire project should be accepted. So I guess all I have to say is keep doing what you’re doing to share awareness of labia differences.

Thank you for helping to spread awareness about the project. It’s a pity that Facebook’s system blocks out the content which is aimed at being educational and empowering.

Clare xo

Zoe Buckman Champ Art Installation Celebrates Empowerment

Zoe Buckman ChampFeminist voices are becoming more and more prevalent in society, and a public art installation in Hollywood by Zoe Buckman shows just how far we’ve come. Standing a whopping 43 feet tall and measuring 9 feet in diameter, the installation named “Champ” features a glowing white neon outline of a uterus with fiberglass boxing gloves in place of ovaries.

The installation is a loud, proud, public symbol of female empowerment, speaking to reproductive rights, advocacy around domestic violence, and womens’ health awareness. It is situated at the corner of Sunset Boulevard and Sweetzer Avenue in front of The Standard, Hollywood.

As an artist, Zoe uses neon, embroidery, sculpture, and photography, and explores themes of feminism and systems of oppression. She studied at the International Center of Photography, and is based in New York. She is an accomplished artist whose work has been featured in many leading galleries in the US and abroad over the past few years.

She is a bold and unapologetic feminist, and I will certainly be following her future work and her career.

Feeling so incredibly bad about my horrendous vulva

horrendous vulvahi. this is no happy rant – but i really need to let these things out and i have no idea where to go. i have been struggling with myself and my labia for at least six years now. to put it nicely i am so extremely sick and tired of myself. i’m in my early twenties and all i really want to do, is to live my life and fool around and be young and dumb. i’ve only had sex twice, both times really really drunk. the guys didn’t say anything bad about me or my horrendous vulva, and for that i am extremely grateful. i know that people with vulvas like mine have boyfriends and sex lives and what not, but for me it is not working out at all. every time i’m naked (both when showering, changing clothes etc but especially when having sex) and can’t stop thinking about how deformed and unattractive i feel. not only do i have a very manly vulva, i also used to have a third nipple, which i got removed some years ago. all this mess in my “womanly” zones really make me feel like a freak and it is scattering my feeling of self worth and my ability to be (enjoy being) a sexual being. when i’m having sex my mind completely freezes and the only thoughts in my head is how incredibly disgusting and just plain wrong my pussy is, and how the only right thing to do is to either destroy myself or my pussy. i know this is irrational thoughts and trust me, i am doing everything i can to keep them down. self destructive thoughts of that type are quite the mood killer in the bedroom. i do get horny and i do want to have sex, but even if i was ever brave enough to put my biggest insecurity on full display, i would never be able to enjoy it. i don’t even enjoy masturbating because – surprise – it involves my vulva, and literally every time i think of it, my thoughts immediately go straight to the self destructive / borderline suicidal thoughts. i have heard some people talking about doing it with the lights off, but for my that doesn’t change anything. just entering my pussy is a two-person job and there is no way my weirdly large labia could be overseen or ignored. when i was younger i was more okay (not okay at all, but compared to the current state) about my pussy, but during the last couple years it has just gotten worse and worse. right now i don’t even want to flirt or kiss or whatever because why should i? at the end i will still have to reject intercourse and then it’s just been a waste of everyone’s time. i feel so lost. if nothing is drastically changing the few years i cannot keep going anymore. i have been alone my entire life, i can really feel that NEED to feel loved/accepted/desirable. i see a lot of post here where people feel so relieved that they are normal. i really wish that would work for me too, but it just doesn’t. i am well aware that i am not sick or wrong or malformed (even though i definitely feel like it). i just wish that big labia wasn’t an unattractive thing, or something people only really like if they have a fetish for it. i’ve attached a picture where you can actually see what is what, and not just a big bunch of dangly meat. i am really sorry if some people feel attacked by this. this is strictly and only about my relationship with myself and my body. i really just need to share my thoughts with somebody.

Thank you for being brave enough to share. I know that it is a very difficult topic for you, and I am proud of you for recognizing that there is a problem and opening up about it instead of bottling it up. You may not realize it yet, but you have just taken a huge and important step in your journey towards self-acceptance.

That journey is not an easy one and will not happen overnight. Deep-seated issues like this can take months or years to overcome, so please understand that you have a long road ahead of you. But please also understand that there is an end in sight. Many women who go through similar insecurities regarding their bodies and vulvas are able to overcome them.

In your case, it would be a good idea to speak to a therapist who you are comfortable with, as your issues are psychological rather than physical (it is clear that you already know this, as you mentioned that you know you are not “malformed”). For what it’s worth, based on your picture, I can assure you that what you have described as a horrendous vulva, is in fact perfectly normal and beautiful in its uniqueness.

It is also clear that you are feeling pressure to have sex, but at the same time, are experiencing shame and insecurity which is preventing you from going through with it or enjoying it. It may be a good idea to take a conscious decision not to share your body with anyone until you have worked through and overcome your issues – not a decision based on shame and internal conflict, but rather one based on the fact that you will focus on your self-healing first.

Lastly, I am here for you if you ever want to talk or share or off-load in a safe and non-judgmental space.

Clare xo

Felt insecure about my big labia

felt insecure about my big labiaHello from Germany, im 28 and when i was younger i always felt insecure about my big labia. but over the years i realized that all the boys i was together with actually liked it…i was lucky i guess… your homepage also shows me im quite normal, too. thank you!

Thank you for sharing. And yes – you are perfectly normal 🙂

Clare xo

Thought there was something wrong with my labia

something wrong with my labiaI’m honestly so thankful for this project. When I was younger, I always thought there was something wrong with my labia because they were larger than most labia I had seen in porn and larger than most of my friends labia. I now know that having larger labia is just as normal as having small ones and I have finally after as long as I can remember accepted it.

Thank you for sharing your story and lovely picture 🙂

Clare xo

Complexes about my vagina

complexes about my vagina dark vagina skin

labia complex

labia pulled to the sideI’m 36 years old, I’ve never had any complexes about my vagina. I always thought it was normal. Until two days ago, when my ex-boyfriend, 35, after a fight on January 4, insulted the appearance of my vagina.

Look what he wrote me: Horrible looking pussy that looks like it wants to run away from you. It’s so long that you could tie it in a bow.

How can some men try to bring the self-esteem of women down? I can’t understand that behavior.

Obviously, he is mean and has a very deep sexual culture in porn and I think he wanted to hurt me.

But I confess, I thought about labioplasty today, until I discovered your website. It’s great this diversity.

Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.

I appreciate it and I can keep my money for travel.

Thank you for sharing your story. It’s clear that your ex is an immature idiot who did not deserve you, and I’m so glad to hear that the Labia Project has helped you to change your perspective on labiaplasty.

I hope you enjoy your travels!

Clare xo

My labia isn’t weird

Thanks so much for this page. It’s made me realize my labia isn’t weird!

I’m so happy to hear that the Labia Project has helped you 🙂 Positive feedback like yours keeps me motivated to keep the site growing from strength to strength!

Clare xo

How to put in a tampon for the first time

How to put in a tampon for the first timeCAUTION: IF SQUIMISH TO BLOOD DO NOT LOOK!! I have a question about how to put in a tampon for the first time if that’s okay? I’ve always tried putting in tampons but can’t..I’ve tried looking in a mirror while doing and relaxing but it hurts? Like pressure? I even took a video and I’m confused on exactly where to put it? I’ve looked into the anatomy but still seem confused on where it’s supposed to go? Like there’s a pice of skin near there? The hymen maybe? But do I put the tampon beside it in, or in the middle cause there like a tiny hole there? I’m just so very confused sorry for any inconvenience I know this weird since I’m not your patient or anything I’m just worried. I’ve never done this before, idk how, I’m 18. I apologize ahead of time for the pictures they’re not the prettiest:( and are kind of explicit but I’m just trying to understand.

The hymen partially blocks off the vaginal opening which can make it difficult for some women to put in a tampon for the first time.

This difficulty often goes away with practice (it is sometimes an issue with the angle of insertion of the tampon). For first time use, try thin tampons for light flow as these are easier to insert. You could also try using a drop of lubricant to make the insertion smoother, but make sure that you use a water-based lubricant intended for vaginal use – not petroleum jelly or scented lubitants.

I have included an instructional video below which may help you with the technique for inserting a tampon. If you still can’t get it right, you may want to use pads for now until your hymen is broken or removed. If your hymen is blocking the opening, your gynecologist should be able to address that through a small procedure under local anesthesia, or alternatively, you could wait until your hymen is broken through sexual intercourse or other physical activity.

Clare xo