Totally hate my labia

totally hate my labiaI am 28 and have wanted labiaplasty for as long as I can remember. I know , I know, variation in labia size, shape and color are normal! But I can’t help to totally hate my labia anyway… even after years of trying to love them. I find myself being repulsed when I look at my vulva and wanting to cut off all that hanging skin with scissors. I’m honestly so tired of feeling this way about my body! It breaks my heart that I just can’t love myself and get over it!

Thank you for being brave enough to share your insecurities.

It is clear that you have educated yourself regarding what is normal when it comes to labia variation. The good news is that half the battle is won already as you are aware that logically and objectively, there is nothing abnormal about your labia.

The other half of the battle is not going to be easy – it will involve dealing with your subjective insecurities and ultimately embracing your vulva as it is: normal, healthy and beautiful in its uniqueness.

I suggest that you read this post by Coach Jane. She describes an excellent technique for confronting and getting over your insecurities by using a mirror and a few minutes of privacy per day.

Clare xo

4 thoughts on “Totally hate my labia

  1. Elesha

    I hate my too, the constant readjustment, discomfort at my spinning classes, going numb when sitting too long in the car, itchy, can NEVER wear jeans without them being tugged on!! It’s like a battle
    between me and my labia… I also want to take a pair of scissors to them as well. I have my consult Tuesday for labiaplasty and the surgery in 2 weeks. I will feel so much better when they are “cleaned up”

    1. Sarah

      I know how you feel. I am thinking about having the surgery aswell, but I wish I could just get over the insecurity I have towards it! How did your consultation go? I would love to hear about your experience!

      1. Elesha

        Everything went really well! The surgeon was excellent and I had the procedure done on April 16/18 and I
        am healing well.
        Honestly I was so tired of having to readjust my labia when exercising (spinning was the worst!), having chronic yeast/itching, amongst other reasons, they were just always irritated. Also,I could NEVER wear jeans without them being all caught up in my labia. I go for my post op on May 1st and I took 2 weeks off from work (they said I could take less time, but I didn’t want to impede healing and took it easy).
        I am happy I went through with it as it was not a decision I made hastily, it was 4 years ago I started to contemplate this and more than one consultation. I wish you all the best what ever you decide 🙂 ❤️


Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *